Bad Parent :(

[tiggerblue10]

It's been an extremely busy couple of weeks with work and very late finishes and I've become quite ratty with it. When we get back home from the school run I'm back working again and when little Tigs asks me something or wants me to do something I end up raising my voice and telling him to wait. Last night I didn't finish until nearly 8pm and told him to have a pot noodle as there was very little in the fridge and I hadn't defrosted anything from the night before. I got a shopping delivery this evening so there's plenty of decent food for him to eat tomorrow.

Unfortunately, this work I'm doing will go on until next week and I haven't been able to take any time off to finish my Christmas shopping. I'm exhausted and I feel like I'm taking my frustration out on little Tigs. And I'm still upset about my sofa!

My colleagues are also in similar positions but the ones with younger children have got partners to deal with them. I'm on my own and feel quite overwhelmed. I don't need this just before Christmas.

Anyway, rant over and I know there are people in far worse situations than me.

Who do you take your frustrations out on?

[pixie374]

I only saw that yesterday. Had to hold my breath for a while. Being human isn't a fault tigs, just explain, apologise if you feel you should, forgive yourself... he doesn't need you to be a robot, he just needs you xx

[tiggerblue10]

I spoke to him this morning, Pixie. His dad was supposed to come here for a few days on Monday but he then made other plans with his friends which angered me. His first priority should be to help with his son when needed.

[pixie374]

Yes, fingers crossed.... x

[chelle7272]

Aw I know how you feel, my son is grown now but I was in exactly the same position when he was little. Agree with everyone just be honest with him. I was with my son and since he was old enough to really understand there is no blame and a lot of respect. Especially as his dad was often letting him down as well. Its hard not to show you are angry and upset about that, but kids aren't daft they see how things are. He may not really understand all of it now but he will, and will appreciate you telling him rather than him wonder what he might have done, when it's nothing! :)

[anneasquith]

Well the biological father has his priorities just perfect ( for him) . Thank goodness your son has one consistent parent . ( YOU)