madham, as you say he still has things he needs to sort out with his ex, like the house. There is no reason why this should not be done in an amicable way. People can split up and still be civil to each other. Wishing her a happy birthday was a perfectly normal thing to do. I think it is a good thing that he is not bitter and nor is she, as otherwise sorting the house could become a nightmare. You really need to let him breathe, not crowd him with suspicions that may be totally unfounded. Ok, so you missed seeing him as he was later seeing her ... please try not to be so possessive! If you carry on like this and give him such a hard time for nothing, you will be rid of him very quickly indeed. He has told you he loves you ... so how do you feel about him, apart from being jealous? If you don't feel the same way about him as he does about you, then why give him such a hard time and why stay with him? If you do love him, be honest! He probably isn't sure where he stands with you, as you have not told him. I think he is doing nothing wrong. Try not to be so hard on him if you care for him. Being pushy never works! I agree with noxlumos, most men don't say they love you unless they feel very strongly about you. I too think you need to build up your own selfconfidence a bit. You'll be fine then. Best of luck to both of you..