A Lil Dramatic

[anonymooseperson]

I’m going through it rn but what makes someone unlikeabke in your opinions? I feel like I’ve always been the least valued person in the room my whole life. I’m an only child, my parents always preferred to be together without me. I never had any friends in school, went to parties, had sleepovers etc. Now as an adult I have no friends, I post in Facebook groups and go no comments with the same context that other people get 60-100 comments on, everyone I try to initiate a friendship with rejects me, no one cares about anything I do, my parents still don’t talk to me. Even on this site I get 0 answers and y’all are strangers.

In my early 20s, I’m pretty, I’m wealthy, I’m hygienic, I’m friendly, I have a really cool house and hobbies I work for myself so I’m free all the time (I know that makes me sound like a terrible person but I’m trying to give context to why I’m confused)

What would cause this? I’m so lonely I don’t understand what’s wrong with me and why my efforts do nothing

[NYAD]

I'm not a professional, which is what you need. It sounds like you could afford a psychologist or life coach. I'm assuming that you don't need to work, but getting a job or a volunteer role in the community will help you meet people. You won't find friends sitting at home. You need the professional guidance to help you find the right job or project and to avoid people that will want to take advantage of you. It won't happen unless you take a first step. Good luck to you.

[Old_Geezer]

You can't be that badly off. You are married to start with.

I might hazard a guess that you are the bashful type and thus your demeanour gives out vibes of wanting not to be dragged into the limelight which others react to. Those who are very animated and push themselves into everything tend to be those who attract a similar reaction.

As for your posts here, as a relatively unknown member at present, you still seem to get responses. Especially given that you've only answered it 2 threads, far fewer than the number of questions asked, and so are not likely to have made youself that visible yet.

I think perhaps your expectations are high and cause disappointment.

But going back to 'real life' if one is not an extrovert type one tends to remain in the background, and we all need to accept who we are and be content with it. Not that you can't try to push yourself more and hone your social skills if you wanted to.