Being in a relationship

[secretagentman]

Is anyone truly happy when when they are single? Im not talking about someone that has just came out a difficult or abusive relationship or those that are single but have thousands of friends and do quite a bit of socializing Im just talking about people that are just generally happier on their own. They prefer to go cinema shopping etc my themselves. Is this a little weird or result from some kind of childhood trauma maybe?

[LoftyLottie]

Very true snags. Some people don't need other people at all. Nothing wrong with that at all. I need them sometimes. I could never live in a commune!! My home is my sanctuary where I can be alone if I want to be and sometimes that can be for days on end.

[rowanwitch]

Mostly housemate/ ex fills in the gaps, we share most of our everyday activity, but I do miss having someone for physical closeness. not just sex... but i can't remember the last time i was touched by someone for other than medical reasons....and I'm not especially touchy feely....

[Booldawg]

relationships should be like working on a oil rif; 3 months on, 3 months off.

[Booldawg]

*rig*

[carmalee]

I'm very happy on my own and choose to live this way. I have lots of friends (both sexes) and a very full social life - I also have the choice to do exactly as I please when I please. Having said that, I wouldn't discount not being single if the right partner came along. Been married, also had long term relationship but can honestly say I'm very, very happy with my life just now.

[David H]

There are two answers, the official one that I can only speak for myself and never felt fulfilled without a compatible partner (not that it's happened much but enough to know). But as we're all designed in the same way then although some personalities are so introverted they may seem to prefer isolation I'd expect it to apply to nearly everyone else unless something outside has happened to put them off. A compatible partner provides all the things we cannot or friends and family alone. You can forget about them after a while but doesn't mean you won't see the difference when one comes along and it all comes back to you. It's adding an extra dimension to my life.

[woofgang]

I am married. have been for nearly 36 years. He is the only person I prefer to be with rather than being alone. I had a happy childhood, loved my Mum and Dad and still miss them, have great times with my sister but I do like to be alone, always have from childhood. I suspect that if I hadn't met DH then I wouldn't have married at all. I get on with people well but don't have many friends....its just the way i am.