update from yesterday

[Daave]

hiya!

well its confimed now....

im moving out!!!



im online now to cancel my broadband and house insurance, and a couple of other things that are in my name!

then im packing and going....


great start to the week i think!

[PinkFizz]

Hi Daave - what happened then when she got home?? I was thinking about you last night you poor thing.x

[Daave]

she came in, i told her i didnt want to leave and that i wanted to work things out,

she looked like she was upset, but still held at her guns..

says she doesnt feel "that way" for me anymore, so im leaving...

[divegirl]

Awwww...you OK hun? Have you found somewhere to stay? Hope you have and remember stay as positive as you can.....we'll all be waiting here to know that you're OK....

Good luck

Lisa x

[redcrx]

hi Daave,

just read your post from yesterday, what a bombshell to be landed with.

Have you got somewhere to stay until you can sort yourself out properly? Dont just move out because she says you have to. Stay they until you find a place of your own, why should she be able to kick you out of a joint home?

Sorry, im just repeating what others have already said arent I. Im sure youve weighed up all your options before deciding what to do.

[CLOWN TICKLE]

try and think it positively

[Daave]

to be honest, being told she doesnt love me anymore has hit hard, i dont want to be here.. so her trying to get rid of me is now irelevent, im going asap,

im dumping some stuff at my mums house (she doesnt know yet!) and then im living on my mates front room floor for a week or so,

i might be leaving my job and moving halfway across the country, but thats going to take some extra planning and serious thought first

thankyou for all of your support, i even told her about the taxi idea... she didnt seem too happy when i told her id considered it..

[redcrx]

she didnt seem to happy??? What did she think youd do, accept what she said and put the keys through the door as you left before she got home? A neat and tidy end to a relationship? She should just feel lucky that you didnt do it!

I hope you dont do anything rash and leave you family and friends behind or run away. As you say, you need to take time to think and plan your next move.

Good luck

[PinkFizz]

Well Daave,I think you are making it way too easy for her.She doesn't want you,but she wants to stay in the same house where her friends and job are,and expect you to uproot your life.

I would stay put,I really would.Do you rent your home or own it?? Do you work?

[caz247]

I agree with pinkfizz too why should you move out
I know you prob don't want to be there but it's as much
your place as it is hers. remember we will all be here for you if you need to talk.

caz x

ps the offer still stands as a lodger lol

[Daave]

we rent, but she paid the bond,

plus the memories of living here would kill me inside.


im not doing anything too drastic, its a dead end job that i hate anyway...
my mate has a spare room which i could stay in, but ill need to get a job there... if i can scrape together �500 - �1000 i should survive a couple of months till i find work...

so im thinking of selling my pc! then moving at the end of this week

[Carakeel]

Well Dave, you have to do what you feel is right for you. Sell the computer? How could you?? We will miss you!! No, I do understand and I really hope you soon find a job and another place to live and can get back online with us in the not too distant future. In the meantime though, try to stay positive and see it as a chance for a fresh new life. I wish you all the best and hope we see you again soon. Big hug :o)

[RATTER15]

Selling you PC!! don't do that, they are worth nothing second hand and how will we know that you are OK if you cant get online!!

[I_love_Ken]

Aww Daave good luck hun, shall be thinking of you. But stick up to yourself, don't sell the computer, have you paid any of the rent? Ask for for money til you get straight, her fault anyway, why should she not, if she's keeping the house and you're having to go, you should at least get something out of it. Make sure it's not just her that sticks to her guns, you do it too.
Good luck
We know you'll get it sorted in the end