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So I’ve been in a relationship that officially started recently. But we’ve been ‘together’ since June last year. Things have been going amazingly. He’s got mainly female friends which have never been an issue for me, I trust him and I like them too! I also have friends of the opposite sex again which he hasn’t an issue with.
We’ve just decided to book a holiday away for 2 weeks to Mexico during the 6 week holidays.. As soon as my holiday was approved I messaged to say let’s book it!
Tonight we’re chatting on FaceTime and he’s telling me about his friend, and she asked if it’s a good idea if we go away together? What if you guys break up etc? Then telling him to make sure it’s booked in his name just incase anything happens.
At first I thought fair enough, just a friend looking out for a friend. Then I realised I’d told my best guy and girl friends and none of them had the same reaction! All of them were happy for me, asking where we were going, when, how long, resort etc..
So after procrastinating I decided to tell him her comment has really bothered me! He thinks I’m over reacting and I’ve considered that too! But I’m here thinking do I have rubbish friends that don’t care or was that an *** comment??
Just because we’ve only been seeing each other 10 months! Why couldn’t the same be said for any couples despite length of relationship?! Then I’m thinking is she jealous? It’s really put me in a downer about the whole thing.
We’re going on a couple of weekends away before then to Dublin and Venice and nothings been said to my knowledge about those!
At the minute, I’m sure it’s because I’m so annoyed but I don’t even feel like going now! But that also feels like I’m cutting off my nose to spite my face!
Am I just over reacting? I feel like I am. But at the same time I feel like I’m not!
Apologies for the ridiculous post!
We’ve just decided to book a holiday away for 2 weeks to Mexico during the 6 week holidays.. As soon as my holiday was approved I messaged to say let’s book it!
Tonight we’re chatting on FaceTime and he’s telling me about his friend, and she asked if it’s a good idea if we go away together? What if you guys break up etc? Then telling him to make sure it’s booked in his name just incase anything happens.
At first I thought fair enough, just a friend looking out for a friend. Then I realised I’d told my best guy and girl friends and none of them had the same reaction! All of them were happy for me, asking where we were going, when, how long, resort etc..
So after procrastinating I decided to tell him her comment has really bothered me! He thinks I’m over reacting and I’ve considered that too! But I’m here thinking do I have rubbish friends that don’t care or was that an *** comment??
Just because we’ve only been seeing each other 10 months! Why couldn’t the same be said for any couples despite length of relationship?! Then I’m thinking is she jealous? It’s really put me in a downer about the whole thing.
We’re going on a couple of weekends away before then to Dublin and Venice and nothings been said to my knowledge about those!
At the minute, I’m sure it’s because I’m so annoyed but I don’t even feel like going now! But that also feels like I’m cutting off my nose to spite my face!
Am I just over reacting? I feel like I am. But at the same time I feel like I’m not!
Apologies for the ridiculous post!
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How often do you meet up with your boyfriend?
You need to sit down with him and talk about your trip plans. See how he reacts. It could be that he is telling you that he doesn't want to go away with you but is too cowardly to tell you.
Mexico is becoming pretty dangerous lately I would avoid it - but maybe I am being over cautious
You need to sit down with him and talk about your trip plans. See how he reacts. It could be that he is telling you that he doesn't want to go away with you but is too cowardly to tell you.
Mexico is becoming pretty dangerous lately I would avoid it - but maybe I am being over cautious
you are not TA, but neither are he or she imo. From her POV (and in fact EVERYONE's POV it's quite a sensible question. Those sorts of things do happen all the time and one is stuck with a holiday that one has paid for and can't use. If you thnk about it, that's over half your relationship's length away. If i were to b=in the same situation, proportionally, it's like me booking a holiday with my husband in 15 years time - who knows what'll happen before then!
I don't think much of it either, some people are just more of a a worrier and anyone who's been in a position of trying to claim back a cancelled holiday would know it's a tedious and sometimes fruitless task. Maybe this friend has experience of that.
As to Barsel and kudos there is nothing stalkerish or effort required. We can all click on your name and see all your questions and answers instantly. I regular look at other poster's profiles to gain an insight. And you were talking about another guy only in September.
As to Barsel and kudos there is nothing stalkerish or effort required. We can all click on your name and see all your questions and answers instantly. I regular look at other poster's profiles to gain an insight. And you were talking about another guy only in September.
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