How Do You Know When You Have Out Grown Someone?

[Rica1122]

Battling between holding on & letting go.

[Peter Pedant]

You outgrow your friends.....my sister said sagely to my dear Papa. 1965. referring to X
who was terribly upset as he still met up with his POW friends from 1940-5. and up to his death 1973

she is now taking cancer advice from X - oops I thought she had outgrown her. Grown back obviously.

BUT I wrote irregularly to a co-pupil, whom I remember as a 5 y old, when he was made a head 1980 ( All Hallows is a bit of a blur) - when he was elected super head,1995 and then when he retired full of honours, fame, sirship, big pension etc 2010.

and HE wrote back: I dont remember you, I dont remember you writing, nor when you did again. I know you not old man.
annd then he added, yeah but I was at that school, My brother is named Foondie, he DID win a scholarship. My father was a family doctor in ALphaville. I have no idea how you know this

well he had certainly outgrown me !
( I have a good memory, and he only remembered the Important People)

[jno]

if you're asking about it, that's a pretty good indication that it's time to go.

[Samuraisan]

Some you do, some you don't. Some you only see very occasionally and then meet up and feels like you saw them yesterday. Any doubts, let them go.

[rowanwitch]

When you even think about asking the question.

[Barsel]

Yes I think you do.
You don't say what your situation is, but I can tell you that I have outgrown friends.
Have contacted people I knew many years ago and found them to be completely different to how I remember them and I daresay they found the same with me.
I don't really find it difficult to let go if I'm absolutely certain.