Hi, so I’m a 25 year old male, I’ve never had a girlfriend or even kissed a female, so obviously I’m a virgin. I do have a normal sex drive and am attracted to females, however, I’ve never had any experience with women at all. When I think of spending my life being a virgin and not ever having a partner there is a part of me that thinks it will be hard but then there’s this other side to me that feels this joy about it, like I’m getting mental gratification about the fact that I’m kind of punishing myself by making myself stay single and celibate even though my natural body wants it. I’m wondering if I’m a masochist?
Calmck- well I’m not a masochist in terms of I enjoy being physically hurt and humiliated etc, but the thought of being a single virgin for years to come gives me a buzz, even though it’s a kind of punishment
You just need a change of attitude. Go join a social group, get inolved in activities, take a dep breath and start smalltalk conversation with those of the female persuasion. When you've got to know them for a short time (not immediately) try asking one or two (not at the same time) if they'd like to go out for a drink sometime. See how things go, and don't expect success every time.