I Know This Is Racist But Can We Request White Only Carers On The Nhs?

[HelenB83]

Before you judge just hear me out please. Sadly, my mother has Alzheimer's and I am partially disabled and need help taking care of her. Sadly since her Alzheimer's has really taken a hold she's become incredibly racist and cruel to carers. In the past She flat out refuses any carer who is not white to even come in the house but it's come to the point now where I can't help her on my own. The NHS have said they'll send carers around but I don't know how to ask them the above without sounding like a bigot or in worried they'll think it's me saying it.

[Canary42]

Any decent carer will fully understand the attitude of an Alzheimer sufferer and will certainly not blame you. My sister-in-law (who has advanced Alzheimers) is very rude and unkind at times to her carers but they understand and tolerate it.

[-SharonA-]

I did not know the NHS send carers out for Alzheimer's patients. Here they're supplied by the local council. And maybe it's a good thing you don't live here as they, the carers, all seen to be Somalian.

[HelenB83]

She's always been racist but never this bad and it's obviously the illness. I once dated a person of colour and she stopped speaking to me for 6 months -_-

[bhg481]

I can only suggest that you contact the people providing the carers and point out that if they send any non-whites they are likely to get serious abuse from your mother. They will be familiar with the oddities of dementia patients and do their best to comply.

[maggiebee]

My neighbour has carers in four times per day. She gets on with most of them but can't stand "that black man and woman". Sadly it seems to come with the alzheimer's territory.

[naomi24]

I would talk to them and explain. People who work with patients like your mother are no strangers to all sorts of difficulties. Try not to worry about it.

[barry1010]

My oldster was just like this a while back but suddenly it seemed as if a switch was turned off in his brain and his personality changed again. Seemed to be a phase.

[fiveleaves]

No, in the same way you couldn't request that no ginger haired carers come around or nobody with a birthday in July

[barry1010]

Employers have a duty of care to protect their staff from abuse of every kind. Of course allowances are made for clients who are suffering with dementia and similar illnesses - to a point.

It is reasonable to inform them that your mother's symptoms include extreme racism so their employees know what to expect. Hopefully they will be able to both accommodate your mother's needs and protect their staff.

[Old_Geezer]

Obviously you can request whatever you wish. If the NHS takes umbridge and sends a darker skinned carer then that individual could report back and confirm it is a real issue. So with any sense, they would be pragmatic and ask a lighter skinned carer to attend. Up to them though.