please be sensitive about this!!!!

[answers2424]

i am a virgin but i have had a girlfriend for 6 months- she isnt a virgin.
i hate my body entirely and i am scared about my first time because i think she will go off me for another buff guy. i have a tiny bit of body hair and a small belly but its realy off putting to me.
need advice...

[counsellor]

don't be scared babe.... it happens to us all.... just make your your ready for it. if your not its no big deal, you have the rest of your life to have fun!!! it's not as big as it's all made up to be and if your girl thinks anything of you she'll understand.

[dot.hawkes]

hey if she has stayed with you six months you must have something about you, be less negative, you are insulting her choices and taste in men by thinking these things, try focusing on her more and find out what she loves so much about you that keeps her with you, then you will be more confident.

[Eve]

Don't worry honey, how many of us are perfect? Just take things day by day, as they come.

Don't worry, just let things happen naturally, if she's the right girl for you then it's you she will be making love to, not just the outside :)

Would it matter to you if she had a bit of a tummy or a bit of cellulite? She probably has her own worries, we all do.

Relax and try not to let your worries (which are probably unfounded) affect what could be the start of something special.

If you're that worried about your body issues as a separate issue, why not try a body positive/confidence session or course? There are also some good books out there, mainly for women, but gotta be some for you guys around.

xxx

[johnlambert]

from a male point of view, if she goes off you and gets with someone else move on and put it down to experience. Girls like guys with confidence so try not to come over as all wishy washy and act like a man. When a man loses his virginity it's no big deal, when a woman loses it she's gonna remember it forever, so do it, enjoy it and do it again

[johnlambert]

and again and again.
sorry 2424 but after 21 years in the army thats about as sensivive as I get

[emmacherise2]

Hey,

My first time was the same as I was a virgin and he wasnt..
I think the most important thing here is to rember that like 99% of other girls, your girlfriend won't be completely happy with her own body either.

Another thing i'd suggest is to talk about it with her. maybe start by asking her about her favourite parts of her body and why she likes them... then tell her what you think her best features are... She in return can do the same for you.. and hearing that she thinks you have the most amazing smile, cutest birthmark or sexy eyes will make you feel really great about yourself and really boost your confidence. Also, during this conversation you can mention that you're not completely happy with your belly or body hair.. if she knows about this then she can be extra sensetive and make you feel much more comfortable when the time is right to sleep together. .. Girls are usually very understanding with things like this.. and another trait us females have is pickiness.. were sooo picky about who we get with.. If this girl is with you.. and has been for a whole six months... then there will be many reasons why she completely adores you. Maybe she doesnt tell you them that often, but they are definitely there.. so do not fear!!!
If youve been with her for 6 months, you obviously trust and like her a lot. I think you just need to talk to her about it and explain that your a bit self concious about yourself.. her reaction will prove to you that your good points outweigh your bad ones by miles.. and also dont forget.. nobody has the perfect body (in their own eyes or other peoples!!)

[emmacherise2]

also, a tip for when you do get round to sleeping together..
she is doing it because she likes YOU.. not your bodyt, YOU as a person.. so talk about it. get her to show you what she likes and what she doesnt because it differs for the individual and if she's telling/showing you what to do.. then its gona be exactly how she likes it.
Dont worry mate, we all worry about these things but just try and relax and be honest with her, because once you get it off your chest it'll be like a huge weight off your shoulders.
good luck!

[joby1]

Just get on with it and you wont be worrying wat you look like!

[luckyeight]

Have you got a large c++k? If so you have nothing to worry about!
Seriously, I feel under the circumstances my response to your 6 pack question was a bit harsh......
Can only echo what other ppl have said - she likes you for you, not your body - or she would only be with buff guys in the first place. Everyone criticises their own body in ways that no- one else would- and what one person hates another might like! The sexiest thing is confidence.

Also, on the whole general topic of getting fit/buff etc it actually really doesn't take long to tone up your body with a bit of exercise... If you do some sit ups, press ups, tri presses, leg raises etc etc - just straight forward exercises daily you'd be surprised by the results.