how would you feel?

[confused79]

If you knew full well your partner goes on porn websites probably to masturbate when your not around and mention it to him that you know he does it but not as an agrument i just metion it to him.
Bear in your mind my partner had also in past put himself on dating websites as a free and single Dad, then in november last year cheat on you with an ex, would you still mistrust this person, cos now they are doing this. He has sworn to me he is in love with me regrets what he has done in past and wouldnt do it again. Will he just get comfortable again and feel he can cheat or put himself on websites again?
tell me anybody am i mad?

[4getmenot]

you tell him dont use dating websites if you do we're over

[confused79]

oh yeah i know that bit i told him that and threatened him, he knows the score on that beleive me! he knows hes lucky im still around.

[4getmenot]

but if he does it again will you finish him, coz I dont think you have enough courage too. he seems to have worn you down already

[tyler durden]

men cheat, whether you find out or not, it happens.
question is - does he make you happy? If in the back of your mind you think you could do better than him, then you should move on as soon as you get a chance.
As for the porn, if he's lookin at it all the time it means one thing - your not enough for him.
life is short & your too old to be wastin time, it's your call, -best of luck.

[MangoPete]

As a bloke, I have to agree with 4get too.
Also humans are programmed to going for certain types.
Its learnt behaviour from our parents and families.
You can choose to believe him but honey , it is hurting you.
and if you lose trhe trust, which you have, you have lost your love.
Define what you feel.is it love or need to be love
Take care be brave and don't let people take you for granted . You are worth more than that.

[confused79]

thanks for your comments it has really made me think and im being really honest, im typing this trying not to cry but thanks everyone i havent been able to talk to anyone about how i truly feel.

[somebyrd]

TBH looking at porn and being a cheating lying barsteward don't go hand in hand.

Cheating and lying - get rid of him.

I don't mind my hubby looking at porn, all I ask is that he cleans away his soggy tissues afterwards - but then he's never given me a reason to mistrust him.

SB x

[RebeccaSJ]

It wouldn't feel good, but I think I could survive it.