Aita For Caring About My Nephew?

[SlapDatBass504]

My (13y/o) nephew lost both arms above the elbow and both legs above the knee when he was 8, due to meningitis. Recently, whenever I look after him, he has been insisting on crawling on the ends of his four residual limbs and refusing to wear his prosthetics or use his wheelchair. Am I the a**hole for telling him to at least wear his liners if he's going to do this? I don't want him to hurt himself.

[carrot99]

Speak to his parents, they'll know if you're the a**hole.

[Old_Geezer]

I think that needs to be asked of the medical staff who treated him. I would have no idea if it is causing harm or toughening the ends up. I suspect if it was a problem it would hurt and he would stop doing it anyway.

[smurfchops]

Odd question ... 

[campbellking]

Depends upon the state of the skin on his residual limbs. He's certainly not alone in doing this, unless he is diabetic or the skin is fragile he is unlikely to do himself harm unless he is going over sharp objects.

[Peter Pedant]

I am nor sure if the walk-ins of Answerbank should be having a go at this one

I think you need to continue what is being done by 'the others' so the response is uniform. This means asking the parents ( or other carers).

13 y o on stumps.... I think he is probably old enough to decide for himself. 

[jno]

aita = "am I the a**hole", so the OP's asking for ethical rather than medical advice. As carrot says, you need to defer to his parents on this. You're entitled to disagree with them but while he's 13, and maybe for years yet, I think they still get the final say

[Canary42]

Doesn't AITA belong on another social platform - reddit possibly.  Personally I don't want to see it invade Answerbank, don't know how other Abers feel. It generates some pretty hateful stuff on its normal platform.

[calmck]

He is exerting his independence as a teenager. Given his circumstances he needs to become in charge of his life. The less he is told what he must do the more he will rebel. The issue really is between him and his medical/therapeutic team