Would You Like A Life As A Working Royal?

[naomi24]

Being on show all the time, meeting and being nice to thousands of complete strangers, making speeches, your whole life mapped out for you from where you go to work to what you wear to work - and to paraphrase the late queen, having the smell of fresh paint up your nose wherever you go?  I always imagine Camilla - who on the day of the coronation looked for all the world like she'd much rather be somewhere else - getting home from her duties, kicking her shoes off, flopping down on the sofa and saying 'Thank God that's over'. Could you do the job?

[sp1814]

pastafreak

 

I'm certainlt not directing that comment to anyone specifically - but after a number of years on AB, I've seen sooo much criticism of millennials, but what in my experience, there's a large number of Whitney boomers who do not see marriage as a lifelong commitment and if it's okay to judge millennials on their life choices (as boomers looove to do) then it's okay to judge boomers.

 

But my main point is this - I hate divorce. I hate people who don't do everything to honour their commitment to their partner.

Marriage is a sacred thing.

[sp1814]

What us up with my typing!!!?

[Vagus]

Half my children are married, half aren't, and those that aren't have children. They are no more or less committed to the relationship than if they were married.
Marriage is about convention these days, I care not one jot whether my children get married or not.

 

[sp1814]

I'm weirdly conservative (small 'c') when it comes to marriage. I'm generally liberal, but I think that if you're in a long term relationship, getting married or entering a CP tells the world "I'm committed to this relationship".

 

Dunno why I feel like this - I just think if you have to opportunity to get married, it's a no- brainer. I suppose I want everyone to experience the great stuff about getting married.

[Deskdiary]

Not a chance.

 

I've taken this week off work, Mrs Deskdiary is in Barcelona with friends, my daughter is at Uni until next week and my son is on a school trip, so tomorrow I'm thinking of wandering up to the pub at lunchtime, with a Motorcycle News in my arms, and spending a leisurely 2 (or 3 or 4) hours in the pub garden on my own.

 

Not having the freedom to do this sort of thing would be horrible.

[sp1814]

DD

Imagine having to be conscious of potential pals every time you stepped out if the front door!

Imagine having to wary of everything to say to everyone.

Just grim.

 

Bad enough if you're born into it - utter madness to marry into it!

[Vagus]

Having a mortgage and children together shows more of a commitment than a bit of paper or a few words by a religeous or official person, in my view.

Each to their own of course.

[naomi24]

You and me both pasta.  I've not read the rest of SP's posts.

[sp1814]

Vagus

Getting married or entering into civil partnership isn't simply about a "bit of paper". You gather your friends a family togeher to say to the world "I love this person and I want to draw up a contract to keep us togther until one of us dies."

That's INCREDIBLY special - it's why the dissolution of a marriage is so much more complicated than an unmarried couple splitting up.

Marriage is the cornerstone of society

[sp1814]

'I've not read the rest of SP's posts.'

 

Sure.

[Vagus]

I disagree sp.

[sp1814]

No worries Vagus. Load of different opinions. If there wasn't, this site would die!!!

[jackthehat]

Andrew Parker-Bowles, a nominally devout catholic, was a great 'swordsman-about-town' before and during his marriage to Camilla.

It is difficult to strive to keep a marriage alive when the other partner is so cavalier about his vows and unfair to expect her to be.

As for the rest, I am with Rowan....my past is probably a little too colourful and I would hate to think of the amount of printers' ink that would be devoted to stories of my youthful indiscretions as sold by my frenemies.😁

[sp1814]

JTH

 

If you have youthful indiscretions it means you've lived an interesting life ;-)

[pastafreak]

What the...are "Whitney boomers"???

I know what boomers are...I am one. And, tbh...I'm getting fed up with the negativity I've seen recently regarding a whole generation. 

// I hate people who don't do everything to honour their commitment to their partner.//...Well, if your partner of 20+ years is having an affair, and you realise they are not honouring their commitment...its easy to decide "I'm done with this".

[Hopkirk]

How do you know I'm not a working Royal?

[naomi24]

I read the three-liner, SP.  You can be sure of what I said.

[sp1814]

Hopkirk

If you are, then I doff my cap to you. I wouldn't want your job!

pastafreak...that was my Spellchack, swapping whiney for Whitney.

I'm not referring to ALL boomers and definitely not you personally. I don't know you or your situation so am not qualified to comment on your life. But I thinks it's fair to criticise a specific group of people - not ALL boomers are whiny just as not all millenials are woke - but those that are are incredibly annoying.

[sp1814]

But back to the question. Hard to be a workind royal - absolutely. But infinitely harder to be a working mum in a zero hours contract with limited chances of advancement...worried about how to feed her kids with the prices of everything going through the roof. 

Camilla may get to kick off her shoes when she gets home, but others don't get that chance. They have to keep their shoes on because they have to start their second job in just over an hour.

*They're* the ones who make me think "bloody hell...I could not do that!"

[Untitled]

i would never judge someone for having a divorce, it strikes me as entirely private. there are a thousand ways in which a relationship can break down and not all of them necessarily involve violence or abuse. 
 

i do however think royalty as an institution is an abomination. it imisserates the people inside it who are forced to live according to protocol and gives a group pf people who are obviously mentally ill and damaged a huge amount of power and influence with no accountability. it also supports a disgusting culture of servility and deference to those born into privileged positions which i suspect is the royal family's true purpose-it tries to teach people not to question their betters and to accept unearned wealth and power as normal and desirable. it makes britain a sicker and more obsequieous society.