Adoption of "David" by Madonna

[Lolly Smoo]

Why doesn't Madonna give financial support to the father of "David" rather than taking the child away from him? Money doesn't mean you are a good parent. Isn't she just saying I'm richer than you and therefore I can afford to take your child? Why not choose a child with no living parent? I note that she sent a nanny to collect him and went off to her exercise class this morning...so much for mother child bonding! The poor child must be totally disorientated and shell-shocked.

[suffragette]

I don't see why people should be condemned as mean spirited Backdrifter when there are cultural concerns for the childs future. If Madonna really wishes to help a deprived child, what is wrong with adopting an American or British child where there are far fewer concerns regarding the heritage, language and cultural differences between child and adoptive parent.

The attached item gives an Ethiopian writers experience of cross cultural adoption and the difficulties he encountered trying to develop his own sense of self and belonging when growing up in an alien environment.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/africa/604429 4.stm

[Backdrifter]

suffragette, it's mean-spirited and, reading your last post, massively arrogant and overbearing to make these sorts of comments about something that has absolutely nothing to do with any of us. "When there are cultural concerns for the child's future"? Where the hell do you get off saying that? This is a couple who have chosen to adopt a child - end of story. Where they choose to adopt that child from, and how they choose to bring him up, is no business of yours - you have absolutely no idea what their plans are and you have no right to know, yet you and others are speaking as though you DO have some sort of right, and I find that very unpleasant. Simply because she is well-known and her every move is reported, you are presuming to say what she should and shouldn't be doing with regards to her own family arrangements, and you are saying it with no apparent awareness of how breathtakingly presumptious and arrogant it makes you sound.

And as for your previous comment about Jolie - "how someone with a reputation for cutting herself was deemed suitable I'll never know" - no, you will never know, because you were not party to the adoption/assessment process and can therefore make no informed comment on it, but this didn't stop you making a lame, uninformed bitchy remark based on some "reputation" that you've no doubt picked up from the seedier end of the media. Nice one, suffragette. Along with many of the other contributors here, you are simply coming across as an unpleasant, sniping individual.