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Am I Right To Be Feeling This Way?
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Ok this is delicate because I've never experienced it and need sensible answers.
My eldest daughter who is now 20 has been studying in UNI at London, and was soon to finish her courses, and the plan was or so I thought to come back to us in Cornwall soon.
But on her current Christmas visit, which I cherish as the past 3 years I've hardly seen her, she announced shes got a boyfriend who lives in London, actually Wimbledon.
Obviously I embraced her and said congratulations and that I am very happy for you both.
But as a Dad part of me thinks am I slowly losing my daughter rather than gaining her back to me.
Of course I am happy for her, and would never dream of standing in her way, but I feel I've patiently been waiting all this time to look forward to having her back in Cornwall, I'm now not so sure as she might use London as her permanent residence.
Am I being selfish? I can't help how I feel, obviously I want my siblings to be fairly near me, not so far that seeing her is only Christmas or birthdays.
I'm aware theres nothing I can do but is this normal to be so worried that I really am losing close contact with my daughter. I'm not getting any younger myself at 55. I was looking forward to her coming home 😭
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My daughter also made the move from home in Plymouth to university in London. She did her Masters, took a year off to move to Australia for a year with her BF for his job, came back and did her PhD in London.
12:01 Thu 26th Dec 2024
My mother said that children don't ask to be born and they have no obligation to care for their parents when the parents get old.
I left home at 23 but never moved far, this my choice. My brother travelled to Australia, went to University, moved to England and stayed there.
My parents were dead by the time I was forty. My brother and I are still very close, although not geographically.
