I Wasn't Invited To My Coworker's Housewarming Party

[Treacle71]

Am I being too sensitive?  Everyone in my office was invited except me. I live 30 miles away so really I couldn't have made it, but I would've bought him a house warming gift. He said he'd invite me, but I only knew he had the party just this weekend as everyone in the office is talking about it now and I can't join in as in the end I wasn't invited. I feel so embarrassed. He has the day off today. I feel rejected and left out.  The others live nearer him (so maybe they could have made it there better than me) and one lives far away from him like I do, but he still he got invited 🤔

[DDIL]

Are you still an agency worker?

Yes, you are being too sensitive, you have said many times on here that you do not like your colleagues.

If you would not have gone why are you getting worked up about it?

[naomi24]

Did you tell him or anyone else in the office you couldn't make it because it was too far away?  If you did that's probably why he didn't mention it again.  

 

https://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Shopping/Question1887838.html#gsc.tab=0

 

 

[chelle7272]

Didn't you say before you had been invited but couldn't go so were looking for a suitable gift?

[chelle7272]

Ah sorry Naomi, got dirstraced while posting, you weren't there before!

Treacle you haven't been left out if you had said you couldn't make it, but if you feel that way maybe join the conversation 'sorry I couldn't make it sounds like you all had a good time' or something like that.

[naomi24]

I would do  what chelle suggests.  Just say you were sorry to miss it and pleased they all had a good time. 

 

Did you give him a gift?

[hejoj16205]

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[naomi24]

hejoj16205, welcome to the AnswerBank.  You appear to have posted your answer in the wrong thread.

 

[DDIL]

Wow good catch ladies - I even responded on the previous post.

I would do exactly as suggested in light of this information, you did get an invite but turned it down. Say you were sorry you missed it and ask how it went.

 

[Maydup]

It's clear you're feeling left out today, but was it in fact because you chose not to go but wish you had maybe?

[Treacle71]

I never turned the invite down. I told him it was a lovely thing to do. I would've RSVP'd that I couldn't go (he'd no idea I couldn't make it), but it wasn't to be. I had every intention of gifting him too whether I'd gone or not.

[naomi24]

I think he must have got the idea that you weren't going - perhaps from someone else in the office.

[THECORBYLOON]

When he invited you verbally, did he say he would give you a written invite at a later date?

 

[calmck]

Did everyone else get written invites? 

[Treacle71]

Yes, he said I'd get an invite. I don't know how the others got theres. He must've changed his mind, but I feel rejected and rebuffed.

[THECORBYLOON]

Did he say when it would be and did you buy him a gift?

[naomi24]

You shouldn't feel bad.  Unless you've done something to upset him - and he's clearly 'off with you - I'd be willing to bet that someone else told him you weren't going.  Wait until he's back at work and see how the land lies then.  

[Treacle71]

He said beginning of February.

[dasherman]

In this post you said you'd been invited but wouldn't be able to make it because it's 30 miles away: https://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Shopping/Question1887838.html

Now you're saying you weren't invited.

Maybe he knew you wouldn't be going so didn't bother with you?

[Treacle71]

Just an update (if anyone's interested):

He came in with a box of chocs for all of us this morning which he placed on the centre desk and I said, “So what’s the occasion?”  He said, “It’s from my house warming on the w/end” and I said, “Awww….I wasn’t invited” and he said, “No. Sorry” and he laughed.  Then he said, "You probably wouldn't have liked the food anyway" 🤷‍♀️

 

 

Anyway…..move on.

[bednobs]

Well, you have previously moaned about the co-workers food.And your co-workers in fact!  look on the bright side, at least you Didn't have to see them and you saved yourself £2.50 or however Much you planned to splash out on him