Fair Weather Friends

[naomi24]

Over the course of two years I spent many patient hours on repetitive daily phone calls from a friend going through a divorce.  One day when she rang I was unwell so I said I wasn't feeling too good and could we keep it short today please.  You'd think a friend would ask what's wrong at least, wouldn't you?  Not a bit of it.  Her response?  'You'll get over it' - and proceeded to tell me her troubles as usual.   She has now been relegated to the 'people I used to know' folder. 

 

Any more tales of fair weather friends?

[Patsy33]

Good for you, Naomi. A true friend would ask if you were OK.

[naomi24]

Hi Patsy, I didn't want sympathy - but I didn't expect a dismissive 'You'll get over it' without even knowing what was wrong.  

[pastafreak]

I had one many years ago. She was  supportive during the somewhat rough times. I'd spend hours at her kitchen table and we'd moan together about our respective husband/partner. She supported me during my divorce. But when I found a new man, she disappeared...she even didn't bother to acknowledge the wedding invitation. That hurt.

[naomi24]

That's jealousy, pasta.  She couldn't handle that.

[ToraToraTora]

From your post I think there is case for either of you to be the fair weather friend.

[Smowball]

That's not a friend Naomi : (

[naomi24]

I was a very good friend to her, TTT.  She struggled to pass her driving test and just after she eventually got her licence she phoned me in a panic saying she'd been flashed by a speed camera and she was worried she'd be fined.  I said if she was speeding she probably would be fined, but she insisted she wasn't.  She said there was a sign on the road but didn't know what it was, so I drove a 100 mile round trip to have a look at the area of road.  There was a sign - 'Clearway' - but there was no camera that would have flashed her - just one that would have flashed erring drivers coming in the opposite direction.  Suffice to say the friendship was eventful.  

 

[ToraToraTora]

that's decent of you but I would have just waited a fortnight for the NIP to not arrive.

[naomi24]

You're not her, TTT.

[ToraToraTora]

I was talking about you, why did you not just say: "wait until the NIP arrives"?

[naomi24]

Because she was scared.  I didn't post this to focus on my experiences.  I posted it to generate a bit of chat about fair weather friends.   

[albaqwerty]

A friend of mine had one.  Mate would drop everything whenever there was a crisis to be with her for support, etc etc. I kept my opinions to myself but I was sorely tempted!

However, mate had her own personal crisis, I was visiting when Fairy Feathers turned up, mate finally had her eyes opened.  Absolutely no empathy and was more concerned about herself. (Mate had had a miscarriage) heartless trollope.

[vulcan42]

I have a friend who constantly phones to tell me her latest medical complaint but would never ask how I was. A few weeks ago, when my car was in the garage being repaired, she phoned and asked how the car was. 

[Tilly2]

I don't have any fair weather friends. The friends I have have been friends for years and have supported me through thick and thin. 

My fair weather friend radar has been active for thirty years or more. I am blessed with the handful of true friends that I have.

[bednobs]

I often get peed off with my daughter's friends. She is 13 and I dunno wot it is about girls her age but they all seem to be out for what they can get. I recently took her and her friend overnight at a theme park for her birthday. Obvs quote expensive,, plus I bought them dinner and drinks and snacks and the friends didn't even say thanks once!

[rowanwitch]

My rule has always been that friendship is a two way street,  when the traffic is one way they don't get to be my friend.  One of two had temporary relegations to the help them and move on list.   As a result I have a small group of real ' help you bury the body' type friends who accept me for who I am and how I am, and I am the same with them.   And a right mixed bag of eccentrics and odd bods they are, I love them all

[david small]

Some ''friend''. Her loss naomi24. You would be a wonderful friend.

[tomus42]

Not exactly fair weather friends but relatives we would invite every year for Christmas dinner, and they always accepted.

After a good few years it occurred to us that there was never a reciprocal invitation, so we decided one year to say nothing and see what happened.

What happened was nothing. They never came again and we never got invited to theirs. 

[Cloverjo]

I had a friend who was great fun for a boozy night out. She used to stay at my house when we were teens and my mum would give her a lift home in the mornings. I consoled her through problems like an STI and missed period scares later on. 

I went to visit her when I was having a tricky time and she made it quite clear that I was a massive pain in her backside. Never mind! I don't see her now. 

[Quenched]

I would say the person wasn't a friend at all as they have proven to be two faced and fickle.