Playing hard to get.

[Headless Rat]

How do you appear "hard to get" or a challenge without coming across as not being interested?When will a guy actually think "No, she's not playing hard to get, she's just not interested" and give up trying?Basically, what's the best way of "acting" hard to get?

[Llamatron]

Sorry for my naive question but why play games?

[nat_84]

Because i think loads of people play games these days.

Erm... my advice...

Don't over text...

Dont sound all excited if he rings...

If he says..."shall we meet at 7.00pm?" say "can we make it 8.30pm, becuase i've got something to do...."

If he says, "i'll call you", don't call him...

[laurence2]

Why play ''hard to get'' when you can ''get it'' easy?

Or is it the thrill of ''the catch'' you like?

[andy-hughes]

Non-verbal communication is a minefield, and men are extremely bad at it!

If you like the guy, let him know, it just means you like him, your not promising nights of unbridled passion!

Take things a step at a time, but given that couple communication is so difficult when you are trying to get it right, why put obstacles in that are not there.

[Headless Rat]

I don't mean I want to put obstacles in the way; I guess I just mean how do you flirt properly!

[ummmm]

Hard to get. Don't sleep with him and make it clear that you do not have casual sex. You can text and phone as much as you want as long as he knows that you won't shag him easily. Hopefully, by the time you do shag him he has respect for you. Respect is a good basis for the start of any relationship. Casual or not.

Just my opinion though

[noxlumos]

Just be nice. Don't play games, it's stupid and childish, makes you seem immature and high maintenance, isn't sophisticated-just annoying and is probably the biggest turn off for men over 20 in the world.Flirt, let him know you like him, but don't be easy, just let it all happen at it's own pace when you are both comfortable.