Do you get paid for by your partner?

[missjef]

I was wondering how many of you out there get paid for when you go to the cinema or out for a meal when you're with your boyfriend or husband?
Or you get anything else paid for?

[Fiszi]

Mostly I do. Sometimes I pay for myself but mostly he pays. He also takes me out shopping.

[noxlumos]

I always pay if I take my wife out and prior to that if I took any woman out, it's only polite. Very often a girl will offer to buy a drink or something and I've found that it's helpful to accept as it stops the woman feeling beholden and makes the whole things more relaxing, generally though I'm fairly old fashioned in thinking men should pay.

[Eve]

I've dated a lot recently and most guys offer to pay and won't accept a polite offer to go halves etc...

I'd never expect anyone to pay for me though.

[Eve]

Saying that and in line with Nox's post, I will always try and buy some drinks or something if a guy takes me out on a meal.

[raysparx1]

I will sound really old fashioned here,but whenever I have taken a lady out I have paid,I would never expect a woman to pay,unless she is taking me out as a birthday treat.

[missjef]

im asking because my boyfriend think that he shouldn't pay for anything when we go out, im not saying that i think that he should pay all the time for me but sometimes it would be nice.
He has taken me out for a meal a few times & paid.
But what really gets to me is things like last night we went to watch a band play and he was getting a drink & didnt even offer to get me one!
Whenever we go to the cinema or for a meal usually he'll state before that i'll have to pay halves, even on our one year anniversary (which believe me led to a big row, subsequently we didn't go out at all that night & he ended up going to a friends house).
so i was just wondered if anyone else doesn't get paid for or does get paid for? & if you don't do you get annoyed about it?
i have to say that i usually dont have hardly any money, and he does have a lot more than me so i think it gets to me even more if he offers to get me a drink then when he finishes that and he says "oh well its your turn to buy drinks isn't it?"!!!

[raysparx1]

He does not deserve a girlfriend,tight git!!!! ditch him and get a proper one,who treats you how a lady should be treated,I have never heard of such a thing as the way he is behaving.

[missjef]

thanks for the advice raysparx, but he's a ncie lad really. He's just got this thing where he's trying not to spend so much money which is fair enough.

[raysparx1]

As long as you are happy missjef, but I just do not understand it, he obviously must treat you well in all other ways,just tell him not to be so bl00dy mean with his money,as you say he has more than you,

[missjef]

trust me i have said this to him quite a few times, but he says that i shouldn't expect to be paid for & he needs to save his money & doesn't want to be paying for me when we got out.. usually he'll tell me to stop going on at him about it aswell as i have told him that he can be really tight with his money but he says he's not!

[ummmm]

Have you at him down and explained? Or maybe you should show him this post.

I pay for myself as a general rule

[missjef]

oooh i think hes had a change of heart suddenly... he rang me just now (cos i'd texted him about going for a meal & to the cinema tonight when i finish work) & said he'd like to do that, and he said was it alright if we went halves for the meal & he doesnt midn paying for the cinema because he didnt get paid much this week, but he says he might treat me to a meal next week.
:-)

[Presario]

My bloke goes mad if I WON'T let him pay. He has given me �70 to go out tonight!!!! I do feel bad sometimes. Last month he gave me �50 to go out with my friends but I made him have it back when I got paid. He does pay for most our meals and nights out. But then I have a mortgage and car and he doesn't.

[~Wingnut~]

Hi missjef :o)

All our money goes into a joint bank account and everything is paid for out of there. We don't need to have seperate money and if we need to buy anything we usually do it together or at least talk about it first.
Sort of always been this way, we moved in with each other quite quickly when we first met, hubby paid for everything whilst I would get the beers in :o) (Well I was a student at the time!) We got the joint account soon after and any money was paid into it. I don't actually remember sitting down with him and discussing it we just merged this way and it works for us :o)
Before that I would just take it in turns buying drinks with my boyfriend at the time (there was only one before I met hubby) I definatly wouldn't have been happy if he would go to the bar and not come back with a drink for me too unless he did it with his tail between his legs pleading poverty!!, never got taken out to the cinema or for a meal by anyone before husband came along *Sniff sniff*

[Pippa68]

I have always paid my own way ~ in fact there have been times when I have paid for the bloke, and in some cases they didn't like it at all...but the ones who didn't mind would share the expense of the date rather than let me pay ;o)

Funnily enough the same thing happens now. I am the one in control of the purse strings, and usually the one with the cash on me so it is generally me who pays when me & Mr P go out! it is money out of my own bank account too, as it is my money which is used for 'luxuries' such as a social life.

I must be a right strange one, eh?

[sam100]

theoretically when a guy takes a gal out i would expect him to pay....however, these days i find that a lot of ladies like to contribute in some way to the evening ie, getting a few drinks in...however, unless it was an occassion or a special treat i would never expect to pay the bill for going out to eat or whatever....its definately a fellas responsibility....
missjef your guy sounds a bit of a tightwad...just hope he makes up for these failings in other areas!

[missjef]

for all those wondering.. we went for a meal last night which was lovely & it came to about �40ish so he said i could just put a tenner towards it which im fine with since it was a good meal!
Cattlemans in harrogate is a great place to eat by the way!
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