serious problem

[e beswick]

ive been married for 4 years my husband and i have seen more downs than ups.with more than 6 addresses since we got together my mother hates him and has recently made a nasty comment to a friend of a friend my husband has got wind of this as you can immagine is very upset and angry but i was horrified when he started muttering in his sleep about burning her house down i do believe he would get somone to do this im worried for her safety and also my own what can i do

[makemesmile]

I know it's easy for me to say, but if you feel this way about your husband, then you're with the wrong man. I wish I could give you more of a long term plan, but I'm afraid my only advice is to leave him.

Have you talked to him about his muttering in his sleep?

[crete]

if you are concerned about your safety or your mothers than why would you stay with this man ?

[janetsflower]

Well i would deal with the immediate problem by letting him know that you heard what he was saying. Make light of it but if he knowes you know what he is thinking then it might just deter him to realise if anything happened to your mum he would be number one suspect. But dealing with the whole problem is a more serious issue and maybe you should take stock of your situation and think long and hard about whtehr you want to be in or out of it. Only you know that in your heart of hearts and its all very well people suggesting you should leave but its your life. If that is your decision there are lots of places you can go to for support but i would start by asking your GP to refer you to a counsellor and they will be able to put you in touch with local organisations that can help you

[badgerchops]

you mother probably dislikes him for a reason but is she being too interfering. Apart from the arguments between them you need to ask yourself - are you really happy in the marriage?

All the rest about the burning of the house etc is just his stressing cos of the situation. just think that he is not sleeping properly because of it and so it is bothering him. it doesnt sound like he is a monster, just someone who is worrying about the situation

your married, its your life. mum should keep her opinions quiet unless there are serious grounds of why she speaks up

[Hammer Head]

Are you aware that there is such thing as the full stop.

It would make your question very much easier to read.