confusion.....

[dejucrazy55]

i never knew my real father as in bio father but i did have someone whos been there all my life who i call dad....and him and my mom were together for 9 to 10 years and so then my mom had another child who she also doesnt know her father but looks to this same guy as a dad........so while we lived with him we attended all his family get togethers and things....now that him and my mother are not together anymore we still go and see him all the time...he really is a "father" to us.......now after thanksgiving i found out that his whole family HATES us being around because we were jsut one of his girlfriends kids.......soo what am i suppose to do about this all not go to anymore family get together and just screw em.....or do i go knowin that they all hate that i am there????

[Pea Pod]

If he wants you to be there you go. He has probably had to put up with as much agro as you, so support each other.

[noxlumos]

I'm sure they don't ALL hate you being there by any means and he is your father so you are entitled to be there. Fatherhood is not, it may surprise some people to learn, bestowed by genetics, it's who is a father to a child, and he has been yours. I daresay, having a very dysfunctional family myself, that it's merely one or two people wondering why you are there and not ALL of his family by any means. You go where you like with the man you consider to be your father, you are in the right and i'm suer no-one hates you as has clealry been suggested to you, so relax and enjoy your time with your Dad.

[NiceCupOfTea]

I agree with noxlumos' answer. It sounds like one or maybe two people have made a comment to you and said they were speaking for everyone. This will not be the case.

As long as the man you see as your dad wants you around, stay around. He will be gutted if you disappear, especially if you don't tell him why.

Speak to him. This sort of thing will come out sooner or later anyway. He will soon realise something is up and if you don't let him know in a calm way it may all come out as the mother of all rows if he feels you're avoiding him.

[bubblegum-31]

i agree with all of the above. i really feel for you it must have been very hurtful for you to hear those things, it really does sound to me like these people are jealous of you. your father obviously loves you and you love him so please sit down with him and tell him how you feel and im sure between the two of you, you can sort this out together. good luck to all of you and i hope everything works out well for you all. xxx

[lizzydrippin]

I wouldnt trust too much of the word of the person who told you that piece of nasty information. What kind of person would want to tell you something like that. Sounds like a touch of jealousy. Im sure you would be able to sense it when you are at a family function so if it felt fine at the last one you went to then it is just that. Ignore it.

[dejucrazy55]

the person who told me this information is my dads wife my step-mom.....so i feel like i should trust her

[sense4all]

I would wonder why a new partner would choose to tell me this? What is her motivation here - if I did not like the conclusions I arrived at on my own I would, perhaps, ask her in the company of my Dad and see how the 'cookie crumbled 'in that situation! However, if you think - she silently wants to scupper the relationships with her new spouses ex family by deluding herself ( and you ) that you are not welcome at these events I would make a little toast ( at the next one ) thanking them for all the support they have given you, and how much it means to you to still be included despite the circumstances and get a feel for the response to your toast! You won't upset anyone else by being nice, and it will fire a hole thro' her plan if you think she is up to no good!