affair

[stormcat]

should you?

[curlyperm]

probably better off not to??? depends on soooo many things?? you would have to elaborate? xx

[ummmm]

It depends on soooo much.

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, an affair is a lot different from a one night stand. Personally, i would definately say no to an affair, but for a one night stand, i guess it depends on what sort of person you are...

[Llamatron]

My old boss split up with his longterm girlfriend and started seeing another girl. I asked him if he had been having problems with his ex.
He said 'No, there had been nothing wrong but then if there was nothing wrong why did he find himself looking elsewhere?'.
I admired his honesty with his longterm girlfriend. Sure it was bad for her but better that than the alternatives.

[MrBen5]

Ahhh, thats different tho if you have split up. Its not cheating if you arent together.

[ummmm]

Agree with Mr Ben, If you are split up then you are free to do as you please. As for affairs.......I'm gonna sit on the fence

[tomtech]

the danger of an affair may seem exciting, but if you have a lot to lose its not worth the bother. if you love someone lots then why would you want to s**t on them anyway. i dont think its different for guys or gals, everyone sometime must think the grass is greener on the other side, and temptation is hard to overcome. but weigh it all up. is it worth losing your house, kids, years of quality time that you built up together, is it worth it? you could also end up financially wrecked. after all its only a sh*g. if you cant do the time, then dont do the crime. think about it.

[ummmm]

Yes tomtech, but what if you love the person you are having an affair with?

What if you love them more than you love your wife?

[tomtech]

well. in answer to your answer, if you love the person with whom you are having the affair with, more than your wife, i would imagine you would have been seeing this person for a long time. because you dont fall in love overnight. i dont think you fall in love over a sh*g. so if you are in this situation , that just makes you a cheating bas*ard anyway. and you probably deserve all that youve got coming to you.

[ummmm]

It was a question Tomtech....I don't have a wife cause I'm a girl and I've never cheated on anyone. Sometimes people fall in love with other people even when they are married. Probably due to problems in the marriage, but it happens

[gina1960uk]

I think affairs are very different to a one night stand, i would never have an affair!! eva eva, but if i was unhappy with my partner (im single at the moment!) then id be very tempted to get a bit cosy with someone, but theyd have to be irrisistable. I have been in a 2 and a half yr relationship and loved him to bits and never did anything, i was very loyal, but i know that from how ace it is to be single i will find it hard to settle down now, n may mess up a few times :-(. oh well! lol.x

[stormcat]

Guys & Gals thank you. sooo many things in my head! he's married, I'm married and he's my boss..........aghh!

[gina1960uk]

dont go there! too complex. xx

[ummmm]

That would make things very complicated

[figwit]

not too good of an idea, stormcat.

[WendyS]

No.

[chicklin]

You probably stand to lose more than he does. Think very carefully. Then turn round and run like hell!

[ConfusedMum]

it's so high and mighty to say 'no' but at the end of the day it comes down to the individuals.

i've been 'close' with my friend for the past week or so - slept together once done other things a few times and always kiss - that sounds like no big deal but i have a 10month old son and a partner of around 2years - i'm bored of my partner, sick of the same things day in day out, sick of my life revolving around him and his work schedule - i'm a full time mum so i don't get to go out and see friends much as they are usually busy with work and/or college so this new bloke has brought me some happiness and excitement - which i think has made me a nicer person to be around, it isn't right but i think sometimes you just 'need' that lil bit extra - does that make sense. although with it being your boss i say you're playing a very dangerous game! confusing aint it? lol

xxx

[stormcat]

confused mum - thank you so much you described my feelings to perfection. xxx