wants me out

[dwolf]

hi,my wife of twenty years as just decided that im boring and that she no longer loves me and that she wants me to leave our home,
is there any way she can force me out of our home(just on the basis that she wants me out.

[NORMANTHEDOG]

no,not really,but do you want to stay in that sort of enviroment,tell her you want to divorce and sell up,if theres no kids under 18,then,sell split the proceeds and move on

[dwolf]

well theres no way iwant to stay but we do have two children one 17 and one thirteen,also she is coming into quite a large compensation settlement soon so im wondering if this is part of wanting me gone

[lizzydrippin]

Hi dwolf, Im sure you'll get answers from people who will be in the 'know' on the legal side of things but from what I understand when a couple separate and get divorced everything thats in the 'marriage pot' regardless of where it came from gets shared out equally between you.
Im so sorry that you've had this sprung on you, it must be so awful to have someone tell you they dont love you anymore after 20 yrs and 2 children together. I hope that you are coping okay with it. It'll be hard for awhile to adapt but then who knows what happiness could be waiting around the corner for you. Lastly, only 'boring' people find other people boring. I wish you all the best.

[lady_p_gold]

Well whatever is going on with her there is no way you should just say that to someone and not treat them with dignity. Are you sure she has not met someone else and is all caught up in the moment. It is very hard to throw away twenty years of marriage, in fact you really can't and it needs to be discussed carefully especially if the children are still that age. She cannot make you leave and also if she is getting a large compensation settlement then that should be taken into account if you do go your separate ways as that is still part of the marriage pot. If she is coming into money then why can't she buy a flat or something. I think if a woman was told to get out after twenty years marriage then everyone would think it was terrible so it is just as bad for you and you should be treated at least with some respect and understanding that this will be traumatic for all involved and will have repercussions for the rest of your lives and your childrens lives.

[Hgrove]

I understand the Court has discretion to deal with the assets of the divorcing couple (often the family home) under family law so it is not cut and dry which one of you gets the house, or if you have to sell. The Court will decide what's best in all the circumstances.

[dwolf]

thanks for your help everyone,and lizzy thanks for best wish,s and boring im certainly not :>)