cheating girlfriend

[cadders]

i am in the army so ia m away sometimes i have been going out with this girl for four months now the other night she went out with her mate and ended up sleepling with another man who she says she did not even like she said she was missing me and was really drunk what doi i do

[yolande]

It all depends. Do you think you have a future together? Will you be able to forgive her? It's good that she told you though, rather than hiding it. This shows that she wants to keep you. I think you need to sit and have a chat with her about why it happened and how you can both stop it ever happening again. How old are you both? Maybe she needs to get the 'sleeping around' thing out of her system before she settles down?

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, unfortunately mate there are a lot of girls around like that. Its hard work trying to keep a relationship when your in the army, but i totally understand why its good to have someone to come back to. In her defense, she probably doesnt see you as a stable relationship. like yolande says, maybe she needs to mature a little before she can make commitment. I know its hard to get out of your mind, but your probably better off without her as its just gonna mess your head up every time your away. She will have an excuse every time.
Keep up the good work...

[boro1986]

Im also a squaddie and if a GF done this to me i would finish her straight away. Remember you are away a lot so whats to stop her doing it!!!! Also get a female freind to beat her to within an inch of her life. Be honest if she has done it once she will do it again.

[888sally888]

Finish with her - without trust there is nothing.

[ummmm]

I agree with Sally....You'd only be worrying everytime you went away and thats no relationship

[WendyS]

You are obviously not going to give up your vocation so it's really important that when you're away, as you often will be, you have a relationship with somebody you can totally trust. Apart from anything else, you don't want your safety distracted by constant fears that your emotional wellbeing is being undermined. If your girlfriend is capable of sleeping around after only 4 months with you, I'd suggest that the relationship on her side isn't that strong. Saying that she missed you is just an excuse. Thousands of military wives, partners and girlfriends find themselves in exactly the same position and manage to conduct their relationships without cheating. Painful though it is, unless you feel you will be able to totally trust her in future. I'd move on. Maintaining distant relationships can be a strain. Perhaps she just isn't mature enough to understand what kind of commitment you want and need from her.

[raysparx1]

She was missing you, so she jumped into bed with somebody else, yeah right, ditch her, as has been said if she has done it once why wouldn't she do it the next time she is missing you, that is pathetic,plenty of loely, loyal girls out there that won't jump into bed with anyone as soon as you aren't there, you could never trust her.

[purplecarrot]

It happened once, what prevents it happening again? especially if she goes out for a drink now and then. It is good she was honest with you, but there is no excuse for cheating. Up to you at the end of the day; no matter how long you've been together there is no excuse for cheating.

[MoxyMoo]

DUMP HER!
Meet someone new for 2007 who you can trust!
It is all too easy to blame being drunk - why have that much drink??????

[Emma G 1650]

Bin her - and fast!!!! Surely nobody gets that drunk they have to sleep with another man??!! and then have the audacity to say they was missing you!! pull the other one, if you ask me this girl is trying to talk her way out of it by saying you was the reason she slept with another man! If it was true love and you were meant to be together she wouldn't even need to look at any other man let alone jump into bed with one, plus do you really think you could stay with her knowing some other guy has been to bed with her while she was your gf?

[CushtyFred]

I agree with boro get a female friend to beat her up to teach her a lesson then dump her!!!