should I apologise? PLS HELP!

[milo1978]

LONG STORY!

Theres a guy @ wrk that I hoped something would happen with because we used to get on so well ect... We had a snog one night but I was assured that it would not go any further because he was sure it wouldnt wrk out.

I accepted this-although I wanted more & we tried really hard to be like before, just really good mates.

Our relationship has totally changed, we hardly speak and when we do its an effort and its mostly weird and awkward.

Anyway at our xmas do last wk I got totally wrecked and snogged someone else ( not from our wrk) I tried to speak to speak to him and he walked out of the bar and went home without saying a word and completely ignored me at wrk the next day.

Worse was that I was so drunk that I didnt even remember,I had to be told but it made sense as to why he walked out, ignored me and was generally rude to me on the night.

I feel terrible about it. We havent spoken about it, we just kinda started talking again without mentioning a word of the night and he's kinda pretending everytings fine-although its awkward.On one hand I am single but on the other I have bn saying how much he means to me for the last few months and he did seem to react badly to it-should I just ignore the incident or risk making things worse by apologising/explaining?

[leanne2006]

he sounds like a jealous plonker

[~max~]

What the heck would you want to apologise for??? For snogging someone when you're a single, free, adult? It's sounds like a case of "don't want her, but don't want anyone else to have her either".

I totally agree with the post above, the guy sounds like a right idiot. He was the one saying he didn't want to take it further, wasn't he?!? Well, he needs to come back to earth and realise you're not going to wait around for him!

And no, don't apologise. You'd look like a doormat! If this guy reacts like that when you're not even going out together, imagine the sort of boyfriend he would make! Good riddance, I say.

Rant over! lol

[curly-milf]

alot of men might act big and tough. but are beneath this shy, he may be just this and unable to say what he feels, so its easier to ignore the situation.....
ask to meet him in the pub after work and explain

or he may just be a plonker..........

[Lucyd]

If there is anything worth having together he will do his best to win you over regardless of your snog with someone else. The way I see it is he would not let you get away if he is mad about you.. and if he's not then who cares..

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, seems like its your own fault for prikteasing. It seems you have been leading him on. If your telling him how much he means to you, then go and snog some other guy infront of him, what do you expect him to act like?
I take it you are a girl milo?

[loukr]

like max said, he's the one who said it wouldn't work remember..?? don't even think about apologising.. you have done nothing wrong!!

[ummmm]

Errr, he had absolutely no say over who you snog. If he goes in a mood about it then he should have took things further while he had the chance.

[milo1978]

Yeah i am a gal lol!

Mr Ben, Im not excusing myself but I was beyond drunk-like I said I dont actually remember snogging the guy, talking yeah but not snogging.

surely pricktease is a bit harsh?

[MrBen5]

Yeah, i suppose your right milo. it was a bit harsh. sorry. But i still say its your own fault. And its a bit shallow to blame drink on your actions(thats something us men do). I was agreeing with you all the way, until i read the last part of your Q. If you have been giving him signals for months, then i understand why he is upset. Maybe he is a little shy. Lads arent as good as expressing their emotions as women. I wouldnt apologise tho. Whats happened has happened, and your single. He obviously likes you otherwise he wouldnt have left...

[badgerchops]

If you got a reaction from him for snogging someone else then i would personally just wind him up a bit more to see what else you can push him into. You like him and this got a rise out of him. i dont mean play games, well sorta, but just as Leanne2006 says - make him jealous even more.

dont apologise !