Finding the right balance

[PinkFizz]

Getting all the questions that that I have been putting on hold right out in the open tonight - lol. Okay, My son is under weight slightly - he just doesn't sit silll,loves veg,fruit,hates chips etc,bue needs to put on a few pounds. Step daughter is the same age but over weight by about 10 lb.She adores chocolate,chips,junk,hates veg. How on earth do I feed them at weekends without cooking 2 meals and cater for both their needs??

[BBWCHATT]

Pink - I would cook healthy balanced meals - and when they get hungry enough, they will be MUCH less picky :)

[PinkFizz]

Hi hun - I do cook very healthy meals but as their tastes are sooo different.,whilst my son will wolf down pasta,chicken,salad etc ,she will then whine for bread and jam,ice cream etc after which she can ill afford to eat
.Its so difficult. And yet my son will happily go and get a banana and a yoghurt for pudding as that is what he sees me choosing.

[shaneystar2]

Pin a picture of a big fat obese person on your fridge door and tell daughter this is what she will turn into if she continues to stuff her face with junk food . Cook them a meal of your choosing and if she doesn't eat it tell her to go without .Just do not buy anything junky ....if it's not there she can't eat it !!
She will soon be eating a banana and yogurt if that's all there is ! You have to be devious and cruel to be kind..

[PinkFizz]

She is only 6 years old!! lol And yet she has a double chin and a pot belly,brought about
mainly by her very over weight mothers eating and shopping habits.Its so hard - when she comes over my partner(her father) doesnt like to deprive her of anything yet I can see her with huge problems in a few years.

[shaneystar2]

Well Pink ..that's bad ..and her Mum should be ashamed of herself .She is just storing up trouble for the poor child in later life .All you can do is lead by example and hope that it sinks in .
Just tell her that this is how you eat and when she comes to you she will have to fit in with what you are having and you have to get your partner to agree on this as well .If he puts his foot down she may sit up and take notice.
It must be like a tug of war for you !!

[PinkFizz]

It is very difficult - if we all go out for lunch my son will automatically pick pasta or something - she will always always choose either - hotdog and chips,or chicken nuggets and chips.And if I encourage her to try something different my partner(understandably) says that as he has only got her for the weekend he doesn't want to see her unhappy eating something she doesn't want.
Bloomin nightmare!!

For her xmas list to santa she put:

"Dear Father Christmas,I would like chocolate."

And that was it!!

[beryllium]

Hey there Pink,
Does she like milkshakes? a banana and honey smoothie maybe right up her street, or banana with a splash of cholate syrup in it? add yoghurt too for her dairy intake....
Also strawberry and banana is anothere sweet one.
Another trick? get a mcdonalds empty drinks carton from them that they put the milkshakes in and put the fruit smoothy in it.....
You can also do an ovaltine style smoothy for a malty flavour...... I wouldn't let her see you're preparing the smoothies till she says yum!!! does she like to bake cakes with you? again... good ol' banana loaf, she can happily squish up the nananas!!!! see here for smoothies...

http://www.flowercarole.co.uk/

B xXx