I expect to get slated for this question...

[filthiestfis]

I was wondering what you ABers thought about this: I have been trying to get together with a girl now for a few months, she hasnt been sure about it but we get along great, we argued the other day and I told her that I couldnt wait forever for her to make her decision whether she wanted a relationship or not because she was an investment of my life. She took that really badly, as if I only meant a financial investment. The truth is I am giving her my heart and soul, my time, a lot of things...she isnt really giving back, and I dont care about the money, but its the lack of effort. My question is: would you be offended if you were considered an investment? I believe that its a realistic way of looking at the future.

[Roughquest]

How VERY dare yooooooooo

[samuel23]

So is this thread a wind-up then filth? Why would you ask roughquest a thing like that? Or have you obliged this bogus girlfriend and now she's not happy to return the favour?
I thought that there were some good answers to a REAL personal problem from this thread ~ China and Carakeel offered sound advice and bob-t-d might say it very succinctly, but he has made some valid points. It sounds like you have made a 'bad investment' that is only going to give you a slight and very unfulfilling return. I'd be inclined to write off my losses now and 're-invest' in a more likely prospect. My advice for future ventures ~ do a lot of investigative work and ask her friends some important questions. Like 'has she got the hots for someone else', or 'am I always just going to be her friend, rather than her lover'. Trust me - her mates will know and if they start laughing cut your losses!!

[filthiestfis]

that was the only jokey comment I made. No need to overreact, my question is genuine, my situation is real.

[joko]

she offered to return it in ten days - but you told her to forget it and just when she could - and now you are upset because she hasn't returned it yet??

if you wanted "some kind of formality for the reimbursement of your monies" , the you should have made it that way, not be blase and say "... ahh don't worry about it..."

you seem to be saying that you want to know when you have paid enough or bought enough stuff her and whether your financial investment is working.

money cannot buy you love, nor ownership

[filthiestfis]

youre entitled to your opinion joko.

[Surreygirl30]

lets face it all you want is one thing and are doing all you can to get it - now it hasn�t paid off you want the money etc back.

I think you have really got the whole love deal wrong honey - and i am totally astounded that once again you have put a disgusting reply to someone elses msg to you (re: what you wrote before about bj's a few months back) = classy NOT.

[Surreygirl30]

pmsl - who says i am still single and i am not mid 30's hilarious.

[Le Chat]

It is quite obvoius to me that if The Filthmeister thinks Surreygirl is the most judgemental person on AB thenhe has never, ever, not even once ventured under the section entitled 'News!'

[Le Chat]

Does' filthiestfis' really mean' filthiestfist' but the last 't' was missed off. How disgusting ...."his fist was a blur...!"

[kaylamay]

Sorry to everyone, but i think that was a very romantic thing to say. I would have known exactly what you meant by investment(honestly money would not have come to mind) she sounds immature. I say find a new investment, one that gives back freely without having to be told or asked. I would not be offended at all if you considered giving me you heart, soul, life and time as an investment. It would prove to me your sincerity and devotion to the relationship. Good for you!!!
Mikala

[filthiestfis]

thanks for your support kaylamay! I think....unless that was sarcasm! :)