the everlovin' IN-LAWS!!!!!!!!

[buzybee]

im 23 & got engaged to my boyfriend who ive been with for 6 years last year, his parents have never really liked me although they consantly try to deny it. we now live with my mum with our little girl, who isnt my fiencees biological daughter but has brought her up as his own. We are so happy together and are moving house in a few weeks. but the real problem is HIS family. ever since he came to live with me they have disowned him, its like they dont want to know us. my fiencee says he doesnt care but i cant let it go. at first i thought it was the obvious, that he was raising another mans child but my fiencess brother (24) is seeing a 35 year old woman with a 10 year old kid and they love them? i just dont get it!? we are hoping to get married soon and to be honest having them at my wedding is the last thing i want! Has anyone has similar problems?

[Delgirl]

I recently posted a sort of similar question to this about in laws, it was about my in laws making me want to end my relationship. My partners parents are lovely, its his brothers and their partners who treat me like something they have stepped in, they love each other - God knows what I ever did wrong, perhaps they don't like the fact I was divorced, who knows and that's the very point. It is a really dangerous thing to speculate on why they are funny to you and fine to their other sibling, you may find yourself going mad trying to understand it, so don't! If your partner does not care about them disowning him, you should not really (even though I know I would). Do not let this ruin your wedding though, sit down and talk to your partner about possibly having a meeting and getting whatever appears to be on their chests out in the open. I know exactly where your coming from, because I actually put off possibly marrying my partner because I do not want the hassle of my potential bitcy sister in laws! At the end of the day though, your wedding day is a day for you and your partner, so talk to him, see exactly what he wants, discuss ways of resolving this, but just remember if they have a problem with you, its usually because they have got a problem! I thinks that makes sense. Good Luck though, your not alone with this dilema,x

[buzybee]

Thanks Delgirl, its nice to know im not the only one who feels this way, i guess we just gotta try thinkin bout ourselves for a change and be grateful for what we've got, and not care what other people think!! lots a lov x

[Delgirl]

Your absoloutely spot on, you have to be selfish sometimes, your wedding day is about you and your partner, sod anybody else, this is your time, enjoy it and I know how hard it is to ignore them, but you really have to, if they don't like you and your partner that's there problem to get over and not yours!!!!

[raysparx1]

buzybee, I had similar problems yera ago, I was never good enough for my then girlfriend,so we sorted ourselves out,we paid for our own wedding etc, the ironic thing is we are still together 35 years later, whereas the other two children they had have had all sorts of things go wrong with relationships etc, never their fault though, so all I can say is be happy,sod what they think, live your life they will come round and realise they were wrong, don't expect them to admit it though, good luck to you and your family,Ray xx

[chonge70]

wot a shame. ths is y most in laws r nick named the out laws! is ur boyfriend the youndest by any chance? this could be down to jealousy.