Funerals

[laurence2]

I'm attending a good friends funeral tomorrow, was having a conversation about what to wear etc, i reckon all black, hes wearing a suit with a white shirt, do you have a preference, or is it really paying your respects that really matter.

[laurence2]

my apologies, when i said ''He'' i was refering to a conversation with my brother

[indieanna86]

I'd say all black is the safe option, though a white shirt under a suit is fine. I guess as long as its fitting with the occassion its fine.

[unruliejulie]

laurence, i think a white shirt is perfectly acceptable. I dont think black is even essential these days.You knew your friend, what do you think he would want you to do? I dont want anyone to wear black to mine but thats a different story!
Good luck and i hope it goes well x

[Athley]

Sorry to hear about your friend Laurence.

Its respectful to wear a dark suit and black tie, but I think a white or pale blue shirt is OK.

Of course it is all about paying your respects to someone you knew and to remember them with friends and family.
xx

[laurence2]

julie, i don't think he would of minded what we wear, i think it just comes down to personal choice really unless his family stated otherwise, i just prefer the all black look, no reason, i just do

[unruliejulie]

thats what you wear then laurence, whatever you feel the most comfortable in! Like you said at the end of your post though, its paying your respects to a dear friend that counts, not what you wear to do it in. I think if your suit is black, or dark coloured, navy or dark grey, the shirt doesnt matter, so long as its not brightly coloured, maybe that would be a little bit much.

[redcrx]

I think Id wear black unless the family requested otherwise.
A black suit with a pale shirt is certainly OK.
Saying that, paying your respects is the most important thing so if you havnt got a black suit then something dark and subdued is fine too.

[sp1814]

laurance2

A black suit with a white shirt with a black tie would be perfectly appropriate in the circumstances. If you don't have a black tie, and dark tie will suffice.

Condolences on your loss.

[sp1814]

laurence2

Just found this at http://www.golden-rule.com/fi-etiquette.php:

Dress

Dress norms have changed dramatically over the years. Today, it is no longer necessary for even the closest family members to wear black to a funeral. It is appropriate, however, to dress conservatively, such as a simple dress, suit and tie, or shirt/blouse and slacks/skirt.

[saxy_jag]

Black suit/white shirt/black tie is safe, especially if you don't know the family too well. Plain (not bright or gaudy) coloured suit, shirt and tie should also be OK. However, anything smart and plain should suffice if you don't want to wear a shirt and tie - perhaps a dark coloured turtleneck.

It's a case of being yourself, I always think, but with due respect to the deceased's family too.

Mind you, I'm leaving instructions that no-one gets into my funeral unless they're wearing their most outrageous outfit!

[laurence2]

Thankyou all on your thoughts and Condolences, its very much appreciated

[joko]

some people just wear a black armband - if they haven't got a black outfit.

you could probably make one of these easily enough.

i had to make one for a film once and just cut a strip of black cloth and backed it with doublesided tape and stuck to the arm of the beige suit.


but as has been said, i don't think the rules are so strict these days.

[Lonnie]

Sorry about your friend laurence, and you have my thoughts throughout this time.

You can't go wrong with smart, as others have said, I think it all depends what type of funeral it is, If its in the format of a celebration of hi life, I would suggest a coloured tie, but if its one where the grief will be open, then a black one, out of respect for his family.

I wish you well for tomorrow.

[spurslady]

I wish you well for tomorrow too. Sorry to hear of your unfortunate news.