would you?

[polly1]

if you'd orignially been asked out for a few drinks this wednesday etc, would you still go if they cancelled it, said they were busy and instead just wanted to take you out for a coffee (on wednesday) instead because time was at a premium and they had an interview on friday???

[snagged]

er... even if you went out boozing on Wed that stills leaves Thursday to recover before the interview on Friday...

[polly1]

says that it involves alot of study before hand...am i being taken for a fool!? i dont even like gingerbread lattes!?

[ummmm]

If you really like him then go. If he didn't want to see you he would have just cancelled altogether.

[Emma G 1650]

You should read 'the complete book of rules' by Ellen Fein!! this book tells you everything you need to know to capture the heart of Mr Right! This book is great for telling you what to do in such situations, don't let this guy think he can just rearrange things at short notice - you have a busy life too (even if you don't at least make him think you do!) Alternatively, go along with it for now and see what happens, good luck!! x

[snagged]

polly1.. go for the 'gingerbread latee'... make your excuses mid evening and come out for a few bevvies and a boogie at a club with me instead! :o)

[polly1]

thanks snagged! - you sound alot more fun anyway!!

[ladyshy]

There's a rule book?!??

[ummmm1]

No china.......unless they are mugs

[joko]

don't play games.

just go if you like him, don't if you don't.

people have lives and things happen in them that is not always expected or in our control.

he is still asking you out, he has just rearranged it.

I am actually surprised that you are bothered about this.
i cannot believe you have got uppity that he would suggest an alternative activity because of a job interview!!

if he makes a habit of it and only tell you when you are sitting at the place waiting for him, then yes, get annoyed, but this is just controlling.

[porfavour]

Quick phone him now and tell him something has cropped up, so can't make it!
He's 'down grading' a date and testing you, he should have offered to take you out on Friday or Saturday, after his interview. If he doesn't do the 'wooing' in the first couple of dates he never will.
Unless you behave like a 'good catch', which I'm sure you are, he won't chase you. Men love to chase, it keeps them interested.
Maybe he has a girlfriend.
Once you have cancelled, wait and see what his next move is. If there isn't one, forget him.
Either way, good luck.

[polly1]

Joko - i'm not playing games. someone asked me out, i said yes and then they changed the arrangements. how am i being controlling?

[joko]

i didn't say you were.
i said don't.
some others advised you to.

you are trying to control the situation, making it into a test of will, when there is no need.
he has an interview.

if he didn't get the job because he was out with you, how would you feel? he also would perhaps resent you for it.

why are you taking this as a personal affront to be dealt with with a bit of tit for tat?

like i said, if he makes a habit of it, then get annoyed, but once, and you just look unforgiving and controlling.

[snagged]

...what you havin' polly?!... ;o)

[polly1]

packet of pork scratchings and a large glass of red wine please