ChatterBank1 min ago
putting yourself "out there"
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how do you do this? i know its all about taking chances and risks, but im naturally quite defensive and shy so i imagine there are barriers a girl would need to break to get through to me.
i work 9-5 so barely get chance to meet new people my own age, every weekend seems wasted as my mates are in army or travelling (DOIN SOMETHIN WITH THEIR LIVES) lol, dont get me wrong i have a good job and family,
but surely i deserve some love interest, i just dont see how this will change without me making an effort, but what do i do? go out on my own like a billy no mates??
when i do get chance to go out, i dont get chattin to many girls as i am not the leery leching type.
HELP !!! lol
i work 9-5 so barely get chance to meet new people my own age, every weekend seems wasted as my mates are in army or travelling (DOIN SOMETHIN WITH THEIR LIVES) lol, dont get me wrong i have a good job and family,
but surely i deserve some love interest, i just dont see how this will change without me making an effort, but what do i do? go out on my own like a billy no mates??
when i do get chance to go out, i dont get chattin to many girls as i am not the leery leching type.
HELP !!! lol
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.salisbury, you've got the right idea - you have to get out there and you have to make an effort! If you're shy, this can seem like a difficult task, but it will be SO worth it when you meet someone.
I agree with Jenna - joining a group or class is a really good plan -you'll have to chat to girls but you wont be 'chatting them up' so it will feel more natural to you.
Another thing you can do is ask your mates to (subtly) set you up with someone - like at a party rather than on a blind date.
p.s. not being the leery/leching type is a GOOD thing, and will score you many points with us girls. Chat up lines never work. If you want to approach a girl in a bar, just smile, make eye-contact, offer to buy her a drink and just be yourself.
I agree with Jenna - joining a group or class is a really good plan -you'll have to chat to girls but you wont be 'chatting them up' so it will feel more natural to you.
Another thing you can do is ask your mates to (subtly) set you up with someone - like at a party rather than on a blind date.
p.s. not being the leery/leching type is a GOOD thing, and will score you many points with us girls. Chat up lines never work. If you want to approach a girl in a bar, just smile, make eye-contact, offer to buy her a drink and just be yourself.
Why dont you go out with some of your work mates? 9/5 is probably the best kinda work to do where social lifes are concerned, least you have you evenings free and weekends? Were girls are concerned just talk to us as normal ppl! most girls dont like the 'leery' type anyway and will appreciate you just talking to them and getting to know them