flipping annoying people you dont even know...

[teag1rl]

My boyfs ex keeps asking if they can be back in contact with each other (keeps asking him not me!-they fell out a while before I came on the scene). i.e "I've still got your album-can i bring it round?" "Oh, I came round, and while I'm here- here are some photos I found" (of her and him) and asking him if he's happy and stuff.
I should be happy he's told me all this. She has got a boyfriend but has moved back to her mums so I'm guessing things aren't going great with him and she's trying to get my man back.I know I shouldn't be jealous and if I'm a cow it'll probably drive them back together but how can I just rise above it? At the moment I just wanna knock her teeth out which means she wins!

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, your right, its good that he has told you. I dont think he will want to go back with her. If he did, he wouldnt have said anything to you. The fact that he has mentioned it to you means that he is letting you know that there is nothing to worry about.
I know you may wish he had never said anything, but its good to be honest in a relationship. Dont fall into her trap by arguing over things. I know it will be hard, as it must be making you really angry. Just tell him that you dont like him seeing her in general and that you need him to let you know if she has been saying anything else.
If he has any decency about him, he shouldnt be letting her come round to your house anyway...

[teag1rl]

Thanks MrBen.
I do think it was best for him to tell me and I have to reward that by not being green-eyed horror. He knows I'm not ********* about it and he says he's got no reason to see her again but I don't think he's gone as far as telling her to eff off. We don't live together and I know his family where there when she went round so I should stop worrying I know. Just when he got a text last night I deliberately didn't ask who it was and he didnt volunteer the info-I'm wishing I asked now. Pathetic I know...

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, not pathetic. its only natural to worry. It was obviously her who text, but maybe he just deleted and didnt want to cause you any more worry. Dont just trust him totally though. You will still need to keep an eye out whilst this girl is around trying to cause trouble between you two.
I think you should just have a proper one to one with him though and tell him your a bit worried that he will go back. Hopefully he will reassure you and tell you that he has no intention, which should put your mind at rest. for a while anyway...

[stokeace]

if he had an ounce of respect for you he would tell her that he is happy with you wish her well with her life and ask her not to bother him again until he does this YOU will never be out of her shadow can you live like that?tell him you arent happy. what if an ex of yours was doing that?i doubt he would like it very much.i think you have handled it well so far but how much longer can you keep it up?ask yourself these questions and then ask yourself if hes worth the hassle i doubt he is.

[teag1rl]

lol, he can tell I'm not happy by the way my face looked like a smacked ar5e last night! We're gonna have a proper talk I think. I dont want to come over controlling by saying-just tell her to get on with her life and leave him alone, also I think he kind of feels for responsible for her like he owes her a shoulder to cry on (she's young, bit dependent, family problems etc). I think you've got a point though stokeace-could I put up with that?
argggh, hassle. I could just hire a hitman.... ;o)

[stokeace]

lol teagirl its up 2 him 2 tell her 2 on with her life babe i know a man with a gun tho lol good luck........................

[bounceagain]

It doesnt matter if she has family problems etc its not your problem and its not your boyfriends problem aswell.

[LostStar]

Totally agree with stokeace - when you have your chat, bring up the fact that if the tables were turned and an ex of yours was on the scene being like this, how would he like it? All the best, it's worth fighting for.xxx

[poopy]

Its not fair on you. I would have knocked her teeth out by now (i act 1st then think later) so well done to you. Your man has to tell his ex to get lost and to leave him alone, but he has to be firm and dont give her any encouragement at all (i.e: talking or txt her). She'll get the message eventually when he has ignored or rejected her enough. Good luck. xx