nerves

[unnamed123]

I've always been a nervey person, but lately i'm so bad that i feel sick most of the time and i can't seem to control it. i'm starting a new college and thats my main reason for worrying, but i really shouldn't be this bad surely, does any one have any coping statagies, i'll try anything

[missjef]

instead of worrying about going to the new college why not think of the fun things that going to a new college will bring, meeting new people, maybe days out with the college, buying new stationary sets!! (maybe thats just me but buying new stationary cheers me up, lol).
:-) im sure it'll be fine and you'll make lots of friends.

[unnamed123]

i know i should be thinking that, but i feel like people will think i'm a bit of a wierdo for being nervey and sick, not the best way of making new friends!

[missjef]

im sure a lot of people will be just the same as you :-) plus there are lots of people who will seem a lot weirder than you, trust me!!!

[unnamed123]

yeah, i'm going to have to think positive and find someone nice to look after me :-) i feel like this constant battle with my nerves is taking over so, i'm just going to have to try and control it before it controls me, thanks for your wise words :-)

[missjef]

not sure about them being wise coming from a 17 yr old!! lol :-) it'll be fine im sure, may be a little scary at first, but you should be able to find at least 1 friend (hopefully more) who you get on with well.

[sue11]

Hi unnamed! You could try some beta blockers, if you feel that your nerves are overwhelming you. I got these when I had to retake my driving test, as the first one went so badly. Although I still felt nervous, they took away that gut wrenching fear.
Your doctor should be able to prescribe them for you. Hopefully it will be only first day nerves and then the excitement of the new college will take over!
I am certain that it is only normal to feel some nerves as it is something completely new and different. Therefore you should probably worry more if you were not feeling nervous! All the best and good luck with your course.
Sue

[Amara]

Why don't you try something relaxing like Yoga or meditation - Yoga is great for teaching you how to control your breathing and focusing your mind. meditation is great for getting your fears and illogical worries under control, both will calm you and make it easier for you to cope with these changes.. There is also a brilliant book called "Feel the Fear and do it Anyway" by Susan Jeffers. And no disrespect to Sue, but please stay away from Drugs they will not help. Also try to avoid stimulants like tea, coffee, coke, chocolate and alcohol which will all add to the nervy feelings. Lots of Love - Amara xx

[Soraya]

Im a nervy person too and when i get nervous, I get the worst pain in my stomach that sometimes I can't even think straight. Especially when something big is coming up. what I usually do is think of all the positive things instead of the negative. And if that doesn't work, take deep breathes several times until you are able to settle your nerves.