Hi gaynor363, did you make a decision?
winny between making him sleep downstairs with new pups, and getting him snipped, I have a lot of sympathy for your hubby!!! *lol*
We got Jack done at just over a year; he had started to 'mark' the house when we moved and we had no plans to breed him and create a litter of unnecessary pups. Neither did we want him to decide of his own accord that he wanted to have little Jacks! As a result he is loyal and stays close by when off the lead. He is less wary of male dogs, and less keen on females!
The op itself (which worried me sick!) meant that we gave him no tea the previous night due to the anaesthetic, and took him in at 9am. The vet said he'd be out by 3.30pm but called us at 2pm to get him. He was fine, just a little woozy (the only time in 2 years that I've had a peaceful evening!) and didn't miss his pair.
If you're concerned about his "dignity", then balance that with the health and behaviour advantages. And Bobby's doggy friends will probably admire him for being so responsible!! Jack doesn't get laughed at in the park... ;)
Lisa x