Does anybody worry

[Amber1571]

or get jealous by what their partners have done in their past, before they got together?

[banjosister]

Hey Amber,

Yes I did right up until I met the most fantastic man and I was never jealous. I trusted him implicitly and knew that he would never be unfaithful to me - and he wasn't.

I think it was more to do with the lack of confidence in myself. Plus the fact that I had a tendancy to go for the 'bad boy'!

[LostStar]

totally, and i agree with banjo - think its just my own insecurities speaking.. and also no wanting to be hurt, so kinda looking out for youself if ya get what i mean.

[Presario]

Not really. I'm not bothered that my fiance has had sex with other girls before me and I don't ask what they did... although he has said I'm the best he's had, but then he's not exactly going to say I'm c**p is he??!!

Everyone has a past and I'm no angel either. Saying that, my bloke is so jealous of my ex, even tho my ex was a knob head and I tell my bloke all the time how wonderful he is, he sometimes finds it difficult to get it out of his head that I loved another man. It causes arguments sometimes but we deal with it :-)

[lounurse]

Hi Amber

I guess you are pretty young, we all feel like that but as you get that bit older you both got skeletons in your cupboard you would quite like to stay there so you don't worry anymore. If you think about the past you will never move on together in your relationship. The here and now is what matters the past was just a learning curve. Be happy and don't worry

[Reverandfunk]

Everyone has skeletons, so just adopt an I wont tell you and you won't tell me approach. Obviously you will have to disclose a certain amount, but keep it brief. If I ever get asked, I quickly answer and then move on saying do you really think I want to know. If you dwell on it it will drive you nuts so don't!!

[myselfness]

Hey
it kidna worked both ways in the relationship im in now,
i had a bit of a problem with his previous experience, as although hed only been with one girl before theyd experimented alot, even outdoors. Im not a prude but some things im jsut not comfortable -so i became concerned with how he saw me -was i boring etc

he also had a concern because i have been with 3 guys before him, so he was worried incase he wasnt good enough etc.

in the end youve jsut got to look at the fact whatever is in the past is there, you cant change it or fix it, and theyre not with that person anymore for whatever reason -theyre with you and thats what matters