my right as a mother

[amanda1983]

my sons father started sleeping with another girl weeks after we split up, this am not bothered about however he let her meet my son and even had her sharing a bed with him, this was just a week after they got together.

i heard about a year ago that she was having a baby, i asked my sons father about this and he said that they had split up a fews months before and know nothing.

however i found out a week ago that she had a had baby and that the baby was his. when i asked him about this he said yes and he also said that they were not togethre

i then asked him if he was going to let the 2 meet as they are half brothers. to this he said yes

i also ask for her not to be there as i do not want her near my son and their not together so there no reason for to go.

he agreed to this and said he would sort it so they could meet the following sunday

however it was my sons uncles birthday and they were going out as a family for a meal. when i was ask if it was ok for my son to go i said and ask if she was going, to which i was told no she wasn't.

i rang them at about 1:30 to let them know where i was for when they brought him back. when i asked if she was there i was answered with a yes.

i have taken my self and my son a way for a couple of days and his father is havin a go at me.

i am in real need on what i can do and what my rights are, i have tryed looking for advise on this but alll i can find is what the fathers rights are.

if anyone can help i would be so greatful as i just can't cope any more

from a upset and hurt mum

[Kelmscott]

Well Amanda, I know this is a very dificult time for you. But the most important person in all this is your son, your and your ex partner'.s son. He has to grow up as settled and happy as possible, not as an object to be faught over.

I appreciate how it must feel, your partner drifiting away, lured by 6this girl i am sure you feel. Is that the only reason you do not want her in conntacy with yiour son. If his new partnershio is more permanent, then your son os going to get to know her sometime, however hurt you are. You are sensible in realising that he needs his father as
well as you, and it is important that that contacy remains.

It really is about your son, not about rights and geting back at anyone. You must be the heroine over this. If you do need advice, your localk Citizens Advice Bureau almost certainly has a solicitor, or can refer you to one for free advice. Some form of Custody order, with access agreements might make it easier for you both to keep to agreements. However, no court is going to bar his new girlfriend without very good cause. The CAB may also ber able to refer you to a counsellin gorganisation. Its time you both sat down and talked out about the future, calmly and privately, not he public slanging matches put on morning \TV to amuse the viewers. (Sorry Trisha).

[Kelmscott]

Well Amanda, I know this is a very dificult time for you. But the most important person in all this is your son, your and your ex partner'.s son. He has to grow up as settled and happy as possible, not as an object to be faught over.

I appreciate how it must feel, your partner drifiting away, lured by 6this girl i am sure you feel. Is that the only reason you do not want her in conntacy with yiour son. If his new partnershio is more permanent, then your son is going to get to know her sometime, however hurt you are. You are sensible in realising that he needs his father as
well as you, and it is important that that contacy remains.

It really is about your son, not about rights and geting back at anyone. You must be the heroine over this. If you do need advice, your localk Citizens Advice Bureau almost certainly has a solicitor, or can refer you to one for free advice. Some form of Custody order, with access agreements might make it easier for you both to keep to agreements. However, no court is going to bar his new girlfriend without very good cause. The CAB may also ber able to refer you to a counsellin gorganisation. Its time you both sat down and talked out about the future, calmly and privately, not he public slanging matches put on morning \TV to amuse the viewers. (Sorry Trisha).