Fingerprint, I don't think there is a huge difference between interpreting something differently and making statements that are badly informed or untrue. If you interpret something wrongly - which most of the churches must be doing because they all believe differently - then it follows that the conclusions they have reached must be untrue. They can't all be right, can they.
I don't think the threat of eternal damnation is over-exaggerated. I take your point about the Roman Catholic church - and by the way, I'm pleased it's dropped the appalling concept of limbo too - (it has, hasn't it?) - but you only have to read the posts on here to see that the fear of eternal damnation is very real indeed in the minds of many Christians.
I haven't talked about women being raped or about anything I haven't found in the bible, but I have to say that your view of a reasonable interpretation may differ enormously from someone elses. Take Jehovah's Witnesses, or the Christodelphans' interpretation of what the bible tells them happens after death for example. Not the same as yours, is it - but surely a vital part of their belief system.
The problem is, Christians, whichever church they belong to, all think they have it right, and tell everyone else they have it right, but I've a sneaking suspicion that when you all eventually get to wherever it is you're all going, each and every one of you will discover you've been mistaken all along.