marriage talk already!?

[xJx]

is it right that i have been with my bf now for nearly a year and im already thinking about marriage and kids with him. i feel like we r rushing but he has mentioned us getting a place and suggested a long term future together and its not scarying me. i finally feel grown up enough to be thinking about that sort of thing (im 22) and i think thats whats scarying me the most along with the fact we have been together for such a small amount of time. x

[jno]

a year's not that short a time; you ought to know each other reasonably well by now. Are you living together? I'd recommend trying it - moving in is the real quantum leap, you get to know if you can't stand his snoring and he hates you shaving your legs in the bath. Little things that you need to be aware of. Once you're truly comfortable around each other, then see if you stil feel the same way about a long-term future. 22 is younger than average, I think; but well within the 'normal' range. But make sure you're both ready to put your own childhood behind you before you start having children of your own, because parenthood is another big step. And good luck

[melons]

Its natural to think about marriage when you are with someone. If you really like the person and are falling for them then you are going to think about marriage even more. I dont think its wrong. I would agree about the living together bit though. When you are just dating you cant see many of their faults and then they all pour out when you move in together 24/7! If they are not that bad and you can live with them you are clearly made for each other and you should get married straight away! LOL.
No seriously i tink moving in together is the best first step! be open minded though as all them boxers on the batroom and bedroom floor can drive you insane!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[4getmenot]

but isnt that weird years ago people didnt live in sin and yet there are more divorces now. so maybe not knowing them first is good.

[jno]

divorce was pretty much impossible years ago except for the weathy or for relatives of the pope, so people just stayed together miserably. But I do think people are more demanding now; they want their marriage perfect or they'll end it. I'm not at all sure if this is a good thing or a bad thing, but I believe tolerance and readiness to compromise are very important.

[alijangra]

xJx there is no timescale set in stone with regards to marriage, my boyfriend's parents got married after 6 months and are still together and very happy. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and we are not ready for that final step yet. If it feels right, and he is ready for it too then moving in together will give a good indication if you really are compatible on that level.

[wanting2know]

xJx
Personally I think it depends on how much you see your boyfriend at he moment. It would be a short lenth of time if you only saw him once a week on the othere hand not so long if you were always together.
Has he proposed marriage and kids or is he just talking about the future. It is a very good thing if talking about the future because it means he is commited to you. Do you live at home, can you speak with your Mum? could help to talk with someone older.
You obviously Love this man so what is scaring you?
We can't possibally know what the future holds.
I'm not going to say do it or don't do it bacuase I got married at 20 after knowing him 3 years and I've been married nearly 25 years and we are still in love, always been faithful and still giggle like kids. I wonder what I was worried about, easy for me to say but it scares me more to think what would have happened if I'd backed off and not risked a broken heart at some point, that was the only reason I had any doubts.
My parents had a terrible marriage so you think that would have put me off but I trusted my instincts and hoped we'd grow up together.
Why do you have to get married? are yours or his parents pressuring you? You could live with him and have children later. I don't know what you both do for a living but I'd defer the kids for a while.
xJx if you do take the plung remember to be kind to each other, sounds silly but its like love glue keeps you stuck together.
you sound awfully level headed for 22 yrs old ;-)

[carmelbaby]

Are you ready to settle down with the man u love?? Well dont be scaried me n my bf are already talking about havin kids and we havn't even slept with each other yet. n we are already talking about that...