Will i mees up our relations by how i feel?

[myishealuvs?]

OK- Everytime he asks me how i feel i get scared to tell him b/c i dont want to see myself getting hurt AGAIN!! Hes proven to me he loves me and told me how he felt about me. we been goin out 4 9 months but live hrs away from eachother. were both faithful but after u got your heart brocken so many times it hard 4 u to fellow your heart but i dont want to lose him hes a real good person who i want to spend my life with

-WHAT DO YOU THINK?

[Le Chat]

In trying to avoid a broken heart, it is necessary to put up a protective and strong wall around yourself. Unfortunately, this can lead to loneliness, as you never let anyone into your heart, or to see the real you. My advice would be to look at the times you had your heart broken and try to see if there is a pattern to them. ie, did you always choose men who drank too much, unobtainable men, committment shy men etc and then try to make better choices.
If this man is truly as good as you say and you are seeing him as he really is and not who you hope he is, then take a chance with him, or you will never know. I think there is a certain element of luck to relationships as well as good judgement.
Good luck.

[melons]

Hello,
we all want to avoid a broken heart, but i have come to beleive that it is part of life, if you try to protect yourself all the time, it may make you lonely and very bored. How about opening up in stages, give a little bit and explain how you feel all the time, explain that you have been hurt before and that you are scared it will happen again. I am quite a strong believer in lond distance relationships as i ahd one for 5 years and married the person. If you are both commited and faithful it can work. Writing, emailing, phoning, suprise visits can all work out be be quite exciting. personally if you dont try you will never know, im not saying go in full force a little at a time. You might even meet the person for you and end up being happy! Would it be worth throwing that change away??
good luck! melons.
P.s By the way Norman the dog are you 2?? i expected my 2 year old to make a stupid remark like that, if you dont want to help dont answer!

[redcrx]

 

The poster is 14, search on their previous posts for confirmation.

[myishealuvs?]

Thank all of yall 4 your help...Ill try to make it
P.S. Norman & Red get it straight i aint no 14 im 15!

[dave1969]

grow up normanthedog

[Le Chat]

You shouldn't even be thinking about meeting someone with whom you want to spend your life with at 15!!! Ridiculous - just enjoy your CHILDHOOD!