pinkspangle
What you really have to ask yourself and answer it truthfully, how would you feel if he was no longer in your life. Would it make any difference to you. Would you really miss him, fel hurt if you saw him with someone else.
I can relate to your problem.
I was on my own for 25years, brough up my Son after a divorce. I am not saying the word "Happy" was in my vocabulary but I was content and enjoyed my work.
One day out of the blue I met this man, he asked me for a date and I said yes.
The day we were supposed to go out, I chnaged my mind about meeting up with him about 40 times, as I did not want my lifestyle to change. I too was nervous of sharing my time, my life, in fact everything with another man. My Son had married and I was on my own and I liked it that way.
Well, I did go out with him.
He is 8 years younger than me, I love him to pieces and the best husband a woman could have ever wished for. We married after a year.
I still have my life, he sometimes does what he wants to do, (fishing, going for a drink etc and likes his football) but we are so happy. We still give each other the space that we need. My job takes a lot of my time but he is very patient with it.
Go with your gut feelings and I suggest you give it a little more time before you make a decision.
I do hope it all works out for you one way or another. If he is meant for you, it will all fall into place.
Good Luck!