I am in pretty much the same boat as you wiggle bum,i am a single dad living alone,work all the time and my spare time is for my kids..I dont get much time to see my mum and dad,but see them as often as i can,which is once a week at least..I as a parent know how difficult bringing up children is,but also how rewarding unconditional love is, and how empty my life would be without them. To the point though,my mom and dad are the most ignorant,horrible,self centered people i have ever known,the things that come out of my mothers mouth are just down right out of order,i have 3 brothers and 3 sisters,i was the last to leave home,but when my relationship fell apart,i moved back in with them when i was 25,and left only two years ago,so in other words i got alot closer to them that my siblings.My parents have in excess of 30 grandchildren and great grand children,yet dont know a single birthday,they do not see any of them regularly except mine,the rest of the family agknowledge(spelt right?dont know)their mom and dad,but dont really respect them anymore. My mum has said horrible things like my former partner was cheating on me and that one of my sons dosent look like me and that he is not mine,this is in front of my son,wigglebum i could go on forever about the things they have done...But in answer to your question,i do let it all wash over me,i find it intensely difficult at times,but they are my mom and dad,and i love them,all the good(not much)and all the bad in them,we only have one life and theres no point spending it being bitter,one day my mom and dad will leave this world,(hurry up please)im only kidding,,you can choose your friends but family,there for good im afraid,so we gotta grin and bear it..I am glad you asked the question wigglebum,at least i know im not alone.bye x