Infidelity

[TechGirl]

Why do so many men/women choose to stay with their adulterous partners?

Is it low self-esteem?
Do these people feel they cannot do any better?
Does it mean they do not care enough about their partner for it to matter to them?
What are your opinions?

I know this question will probably have been asked on here lots of times but I'm new to this site so humour me :-)

[4getmenot]

I don�t know, and until I am in that situation which I hope I never will be then I couldn�t say what I�d do. Its easy to say leave them but some people do depend on there other half too much and are so used to being with them they cannot be on their own or they think they wont be able to get anyone else, which is very sad.

[ummmm]

Because they love them?

Fear of the unknown?

Personally I wouldn't stay with a cheating partner. I've been cheated on twice and both times I fired them out the door. Never to return.....

[Miss Inquiry]

Vulnerability? Insecurity? The belief that they can change their partner? Stupidity?

It depends on each individual relationship. Like Ummmm I wouldn't tolerate a cheating partner, we are all worth more than that, if someone truley loves you they don't cheat on you. I would never EVER want to hurt the person I loved.

[TechGirl]

Thanks for your answers. I also could never tolerate a cheating partner.

I was reading an article earlier about a woman and her partner had cheated on her continuously throughout their relationship and she knew about every encounter. She said she forgave him because 'she loved him' and wait for it, 'he's only human'.

It made me wonder: was her opinion of herself so low or did she really love him.

The mind boggles...

[ummmm]

You never know what's going on at home though. I know people who's partners go off sex completely and in the end the chances are they will stray for sex alone. Others feel unloved and find someone to fulfill that need. Then you get the 'I want my cake and eat it' type.....these are the types that shouldn't be tolerated.

[crete]

sadly, sometimes the reason for staying in the relationship is financial.