i feel like i am a failure and all i do is wrong

[worried.me]

please could someone help me a little. i am always feeling like i am trying to change and make up for my failings of the past then each day i am feeling more failure. Has anyone been able to draw a line under a negetive past and move on? i suffer so badly with a lack of confidence or self esteam and feel crushed by the sucess of others and feel i have done nothing in life so far so never will.

[bigmamma]

Hello there .
You are just as important as anyone else in this world and you've come to the right place here with your worry .
There is always your GP to talk to as a start to more professional help if you need it though.

x :-)

[worried.me]

i have been to my gp and am on anti-depressants but have had to stop counselling sessions as due to a new job i could not fit them in. The new job is taking its toll on me, i have few friends in general and have little time to take up activities to meet people. I live at home at the moment due to money constraints and although i have a caring girlfriend i am confused about many things in life. i just feel every turn or decision i make is wrong or that life is predicible and boring. sorry to seem ungrateful for life but i just cant see a way through.

[crete]

IF i could give you a hug dr, s i would. well done

[worried.me]

thank you for your answers.

But can anyone advise how i draw a line and move on? i have been over and over the past and cant seem to learn from it so perhaps i should forget trying to learn from the past and start again?

[crete]

our past is just that the past,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, we can do nothing to change it. put is down to experience and move forward at your own pace,

[meaty]

Every one makes a bxlacks up in life thats a fact. you need to have fun get into music watch telly and fxck everyone else who cares what they think it dosent matter if your shy better than been a gobby cxw you seem like a nice person who needs to build up confidence. you are who you are and one of gods children and here for a reason you will find 6months down the line every thing is so different e.g you might meet someone have children ect get a new job get what I mean. Youll always see some one who has everything well good luck to them but fxck them do the best for yourself. Beleve it or not not many people have confidence they hide behind there mates I am a really confident person but that dosent make me a better person I have lost so many gfriends through my stupid big mouth and hard hearter attitud I wish I was a bit less confident to be honest. Any way your a smashing person and will pull through good luck xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[whiffey]

You need to succeed at something, anything, to establish a little self-esteem. Try redecorating a whole room, top to bottom, it looks so good when you've finished.

If you have a garden, grow some vegetables this summer, easy stuff like leaf beet, turnips. Indoors, grow a couple of Gardener's Delight tomato plants in pots on a sunny windowsill.

Success is much easier when dealing with the world around you rather than always comparing your perceived failings against other people.

[worried.me]

ok i will think about chnaging my username.

As an illustration though- i have the day off today has a terrible dream last night that i had not done some things and got shouted at by my boss. So when i woke up i felt so low and when i made it inot town it was really hard to get what i wanted done. Now i have just found i need to do a new application for something because i had left it too long before doing something with the documents i had. i have had to e-mail two people regarding not being in contact for a while and feel everything is getting more on top of me.
i am going on holiday with my girlfriend next week but she was down this weekend and i really could not relax and switich off from worrying.

[meaty]

Yor boss is a wnker. And youve done the biggest thing ever youve had the nerve to talk about your priblem. Who is your boss cas I wanna come and chin the little shxt

[nextwoman]

Hi, i'm Nadia I have read your little article, and feel sadened you feel that way. Remember everyone makes mistakes, and everyone has a past. I have had a bit of a negative past, I have always felt unloved by my family, and never really felt wanted. But I have supportive friends, and a positive attitude, which always helps, Ive had other issues too. The more you try and move on and think positive about your future and try to move on from your past it will become easier. Good luck x

[worried.me]

no no i just had a dream she would shout at me. i just feel very undermined by my colleagues more because i am new and learning and i take things to heart a bit not that they mean things the way i take them if that makes sense?

[Sasha13]

If you think everthing is getting you down have you thought about making a list of absolutely everything you have to do? Then prioritise this list and write down in a diary everything you have to achieve each day. Make sure you do the things you need to accomplish each day and try not to worry about the rest. Tick things off as you go. As you build your confidence add more things to your list each day.

How long have you been on anti-depressents? Can you arrange some counselling sessions that fit in with your new job?

[Roy262]

What happened in the past forget about it doesn't matter what you did you can't change it.
But what you can change is the future.
STOP pulling your self down you have a job and a girlfriend so why are you a failure ?
You might say and do things wrong dont we all no one is perfect.
Life is how you make it.
Dont worry about what your boss says or does, she/he are only human nothing else.They may be the boss but there no better than you and me.
I do think you might need some confidence classes which are usally held at night time.
Ask your girlfiend what she likes about you this will give you a boost.
I dont know what tablets you are on some can help others dont (can i ask whats the name of the tablets ?)

And as doctor spock says start by changing your name plus great link dr s

[worried.me]

thank you for all your answers. if i ask my girlfriend about good things about me i tend to just get a few things and she is a bit unimaginative in life generally. ok admitedly i am imaginative but in some ways its my undoing as i imagine how bad things can be etc. Anyway where would i find out about confidence classes?!

[dave1969]

ask your GP or advert in the paper why noy google them as i dont no where you live i can not help you.
You never said the tablets?
If they are paroxetine or there other name Seroxat ask your doctor can you change your medication.

[dave1969]

ask your GP or advert in the paper why not google them as i dont no where you live i can not help you.
You never said the tablets?
If they are paroxetine or there other name Seroxat ask your doctor can you change your medication.