is my wife faithful

[WHOSAIDIT]

i have been happily married for 28 years our sex life is still ticking over just, i would say that the last 5 or so years it has been boring but i put it down to a mid life thing but recently my wife started a new full time job which included 1 evening a fortnight attending a meeting a year later unusual activities are accuring like:- she now is out at least twice a week attending meetings etc her mobile phone is never turned off she now sends & receives text where before she never used to bother in fact she never knew how to text! & she guards her phone i;m sure she does not want me to get my hands on it. my wife as become very evaisive when i start to complain about the extra hours in the evening she puts in. unless i start to follow her or sneak a look at her phone which i am against doing how can i find out one way or the other without my wife finding out that i;m checking up on her or am i putting 2+2 together & getting 5 i do trust my wife but i cant understand way she is now behaving this way should i be concerned?

[B00]

You could just simply ask her!

[quizbabe]

Have you tried talking to her. Explain that you are happy she has a job she enjoys but say why don't we make one night a week our special night and plan what you do together. Go for a nice romantic meal or see a movie together or just sit home with a bottle of wine and talk. Try not to let your mind take over and try hard not to complain. I know it is not easy but complaining will make her evasive and then the barrier will come up and you will not get in. I hope you understand what I am trying to say. I could never text but now I can, it is amazing what practice will do. Start to make a fuss of her and make her feel special to you. I have been married, to the same man, for nearly 29 years and sometimes you take each other for granted but I love it when my husband makes me feel special. Good luck and try not to worry.

[stokeace]

listen to some good advice mate and if it means taking a look at her mobile then do it cos you are obviously upset by her behaviour if you ask her outright you will obviously cause a row i know its sneaky looking at her mobile but you need to put your mind at rest without causing a rift between you.be prepared to find nothing tho cos she will obviously erase any incriminating txts.but on the other hand you might find something you dont want to know and how will you deal with that scenario?you say you trust your wife how can you?you dont trust her 100% or else you wouldnt be doubting her movements.good luck.

[Mothmig]

If you trust her, then trust her, she may be busy with her new job and it demands texting etc. If you don't trust her, which seems to be the case from your question, ask her. You can continue to live in uncertainty which won't be good for the relationship or find out by talking to her which may not be good in the short term, you may hear things you don't want to hear but dialogue will be best in the long run. She may be giving you a wake up call - be attentive or i'm off. I suggest you don't sneak a look at her phone if you find out the worst how will you bring that up 'oh i looked at your phone while you were out' . If you really care for her say so and ask her. Good luck

[yummymum]

I would simply look at the phone if there is nothing on it then u can just get on as nornal and as other people have said try and make an effort, if there is however then u can confront her and if it is that she been having an affair then thats a lot worse than u checking her phone, you wud just need to explain that her behaviour made u want to look at it, plus you are husband and wife why shouldnt you look at her phone.

[maggie01]

Look up mid life crisis. I hope your wife isn't suffering from it. My husband was doing very similar things and he has now left the marital home. And yes there is another woman involved somewhere. Hope your case doesn't turn out to be the same.

[chimpanzee]

Just tell her your worries! A load of random people on the internet aren't going to tell you what you want to hear! Hell, show her this thread, see what she says! She might not even know she's being like this!

[sleepyfairy]

Hi that is what started with my husband, although I had previous experience of him doing the same thing and was proven that he was having an affair, this time i just asked him to respect me and tell me the truth, he basically admitted he had kissed another girl, may not sound much, but a second time round destroyed what trust I had, your wife has something to hide if she does not leave her mobile around! trust your instincts they are probably correct, ask her outright, the truth does hurt if it is something you dont want to hear, but surely you are worth more than what this sneaking around is putting you through!
Hope you work it out.

[Ams6784]

maybe your wife has found something that she is good at and enjoys thats why her heart is in to it, and you feel abit shut out, i would try talking to your wife try some of those little romantic gestures like making her a romantic meal under candle light or the odd bunch of flowers, always tell her you love her it just gives us a little reminder that we are loved. im sure that after 28 years of marrige if your wife wanted to cheat she would of done it before now, 28 years is a long time to spend your life with someone. im sure your just worrying too much. try try those little gestures let me know how you get on. Amy best of luck

[Squish]

I would probably ask to look at her phone. Just pretend you are interested in something else on it. If she happily hands it over, you know she is probably not hiding anything but if she is funny about it then I'd look at it without her knowing.

[simsfreq]

I don't think the idea is to look at her phone without her knowing - as a woman I can tell you that if she is doing something innocent and she knew you'd done that she'd be very hurt and upset. If you want to find out what is happening ask her!