Delicate question...

[221b]

I seem to be increasingly meeting people in my job whose eyes are not both 'true' - is 'bossed' the correct word? Basically their eyes point in different directions and I'm not sure whether I should look at the one eye that is sometimes looking at me or the other eye or both or what. I want to do the right thing and put people at their ease. At the moment I seem to be flitting from eye to eye (in a desperate attempt to make good eye contact with them), which I'm sure they must notice and I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable. It's not something I've ever asked someone face to face in case they feel awkward my having drawn attention to it. It would be great if there's an answer-banker out there who's eyes are like this and can let me know what works for them. Many thanks Helen

[Bellringer]

Look at the top of the nose, right between the eyes. It takes a bit of practice but it works.

[wildwood]

In the times before PC, they were unkindly called star-gazers. I know just what you mean. My brother in law has one glass eye and I had the same problem in the beginning, trying to remember which one so I could aim at the correct one.

If you look at one and then the other eye you can determine which one is looking at you when they speak, so it is polite to only look at that one.

[annie0000]

I know where you are coming from - my nephew had a girlfriend who's eyes were just a bit to close together for you to comfortably focus on them while you were talking to her - I did the same, flitting from one to the other - I have to say although she was a lovely girl otherwise, i was quite glad when they split up - that's really awful isn't it!

[221b]

Mny thanks those who have helpfully replied so far.

Further contributions most welcome...

221b

[flip_flop]

A few years ago I was in a sandwich shop staring off into space waiting for my time to be served.

When I got to the counter the girl serving had her head down and then raised it to ask for my order.

Her left eye was normal but her right eye was almost in the right hand corner of her socket.

Well this took me by surprise a bit and I instinctively looked behind me as if to see what or who she was looking at.

To this day I still cringe with embarassment.