paranoid!

[victoriaw]

Wish I could just get on with enjoying my pregnancy without completely analysing everything that's happening to my body, worrying about how I'm going to cope moneywise when I give up work and being absolutely paranoid about what my scan is going to show on Friday! Help! Did anyone else experience this?? Usually I'm laid back!!

[scoobybob]

Wow, reading your question really brought it back to me - that is exactly how I felt!

For me I think it was the loss of control. Like the inevitable is going to happen whether I am ready or not...

Hang on in there, try to go with the flow, worrying never solved anything & you know it's no good for you!!

Good luck x

[nat_84]

Awww Dont worry victoriaw just from reading questions on pregnancy forums etc i know that this isnt an unusual feeling for many women to go through. And it's only natrual to worry.

Luckily for me (now 34 weeks pregnant) i've been pretty laid back about it all. I havent worried (except when i first found out i was pregnant) much at all simply because my mentality is as a first time mother there is no way you can predict what will happen or hoe birth is going to be etc.

Obviously i too have the financial worries (especially whilst on SMP!!!) which is my main concern but i also believe there are always ways to earn extra cash or get that extra support.

Anyway, just try to relax and tell yourself everything will be ok and remember by the end of this journey you'll have a gorgeous baby!!

xxxx

[redcrx]

Its prefectly nornal to be worried about it. Your body is changing rapidly and hormones mean that its sometimes hard to stay calm and focused.

when are you due? Is this your 12 week scan that you are going for on Friday? I can thoroughly recommend the ivillage pregnancy boards and can give you the link to one for your month if you tell me your due date.

You may not really be able to comprehend that youre pregnant until you see your baby on the screen, thats when i realised that it was true and that it wasnt just my body playing tricks on me.

Im a very laid back person normally and yet i did go through all the usual anxieties so being online with so many women who were due the same month really helped. We talked about everything that was worrying us and went through many special times, good and sometimes sad. We now meet up in person on a regular basis and now the babies are almost 2 we are planning a party in Nottingham for everyone and we even have a member travelling from new Zealand to meet the ladies she has been through so much with.

[pixie_woo]

Hi victoriaw. I'm now 35+3 weeks preg and still worry! I was convinced that there would be no baby when I went for my 12 week scan, it did help to reassure mewhen I saw the little flickering heartbeat. The 1 major factor in helping to ease my mind was feeling the first kick, now he doesn't stop kicking! I seemed to experience the pregnancy milestones a couple of weeks after the pregnancy guides said I "should" and I managed to convince myself that there was something wrong. Please take all advice with a pinch of salt.
As for money, I don't know how I'm going to cope but I know that I will cope because I will find a way. That fact that you care speaks volumes about your commitment. I'm going to try to make a little extra cash by selling some clothes on eBay.

Good luck xx

[TheBirches]

I'm not the mum of a deliciously gorgeous 16 week old, and have to say that the worry only continues!! I'm also a very laidback person, but your personality seems to change when you become pregnant! However, one avenue that you might like to explore (if you're a homeowner) is a mortgage break - our lender agreed to 6 months off which has really reduced my financial worries - I know we'll have an extra 6 mths at the end of the life of our mortgage, but that seems a small price to pay for really enjoying the first months of my daughter's life

[lilyfrog]

Hi Victoriaw, can I suggest one way to ease the worry might be to sart making some firm plans for the future. Write down a proper budget for the coming couple of years incorporating everything you will earn and everything you wil need to spend etc. That way you will at least know how long you can afford to take of work, how much you can afford to spend on the baby, what you will need to spend in which month, etc. It could really put your mind at ease about finances and make you feel more in control of everything that is happening. I personally also find reading up on scientific books about pregnancy are helpful, as if I know what is happening to me and my body then I dont fear it. However, if you are prone to a panic or two then I would avoid all the pregnancy forums as reading other peoples worries, misfortunes and woes simply makes you think you have the same problems - when in fact everythng is fine. As for your scan, it is pretty likely to show a healthy squirmy baby. Just remember, as a midwife said to me when I was in mid panic about nothing. 'The vast majority of babies are born completely healthy without any problems - and there is abslotely no reason to believe the situation will be otherwise with your baby.'

Sit back, enjoy it and eat many cakes.

Let us know how the scan goes.

Lilyfrog
xx

[chrys353]

Welcome to motherhood! You'll always worry about them! From now until forever. You'll just get used to it. If it's not one thing, it'll be another. You'll settle into a routine though once the baby is born. Just for now, enjoy being pregnant because it's the only time you'll be able to protect them from everything. My kids are 9,6 and 3. I worry about everything from kidnapping, to bicycle accidents, to school, bullies, discipline, money and so on and so on. While this is an emotional time for you, and your hormones are also playing a part in it, it'll calm down a little after you see your baby on the scan and know if he's developing ok and when you feel him move the first time, your worries will calm down. I found myself counting kicks daily just to make sure they were moving like they were supposed to. I think you're normal.