Why is there no justice for men

[ford prefect]

Why is there no justice for men in divorce and why does the woman always asume custody. I share the care of my child on a 50/50 basis with my ex but she has control and my position is such that if I rock the boat I risk losing the contact i have yet during our marriage I was the one who got him up and dressed for school and got him bathed and in bed at night but the solicitors i have talked too dont even listen. We recently attended mediation and worked out our finances and I offered my ex half but her solicitor tells her that she should have 60% which means I will lose my house and thats what she wants so now we have to go to court and I am reliably told they will demand the house be sold and my ex given anything up to 70 % I owned the house before I got married and my wife chose to leave me and I know you only have my word for this but I did nothing wrong so why the injustice?

[pixiepie]

my hubby and i have custody of his kids from his first marriage. She left and had nothing to do with them for 6 wks then thoght she could swan back whenever it suited her. When we got together she kicked off and threatened to take us to court for full custody my hubby was petrified as mothers are perceived as getting custody. However we went to lots of solicitors till we finially found one we we trusted and who understood our situation and we now have full custody.
Dont give up !!!!!!!
go to court then its all recorded and she does not have the right to stop you from seeing your child a judge would react badly to that. Hate how women think their kids can be used as pawns. As much as my hubby hates his ex untill the boys are old enough to decide for themselves they see her every saturday its there right.
Good luck im keeping my fingers crossed for you x

[xhxmxsx]

i think 99% of father's get the short stick when it comes to custody/ residency of their children, my fiance has 2 girls by his x and when they got divorced alot of solicitors told him it'd be a waste of time to go for residency because unless their mum is a drunk/ drug addict or is abusing the kids he had no chance, these girls have now lived with their mum for 3 years and are constantly unhappy, they're neglected very badly but it's so hard to prove as she knows the social services/legal system very well due to a previous child being taken away! we are currently trying to find a good solicitor to try and get residency of my fiance's girls.

good luck

[Meg888]

Dont give up - shop around til you get a solicitor you're comfortable with. After years of domestic voilence, I left my husband in the marital home 5yr ago taking our daughter with me. He fought and battled NOT to give me everything I was entitled to and constantly threatened to take my daughter off me. I had a very good solicitor with a lot of experience in family law as well as a huge amount of compassion and common sense, she never used any underhand tactics - and finally we settled some 3 yrs later - and he fought hard enough to get me down to accepting an amount of money which wasn't even a third of what i was entitled to, and against the advice of my solicitor, but was fed up with the fighting, I accepted because he strung it out and opposed everything, rightly or wrongly, he got there in the end - I got stung but now we're good pals would you believe. It's amazing how people change, i bet if you were to battle to hang on to whats rightfully yours, your ex may just get fed up and meet you halfway - but don't waste money on cr@p solitors, not only will the job not get done to your satisfaction, but it'll end up costing you more. A good solicitor in family law will draft up proposals to suit both parties, so it's worth finding one. Good luck x