Heartbroken and in dispare

[sosad]

I was unfaithful from my partner, i wasn't looking for it, i wasn't happy, but not looking for anyone. Anyway we got to the point where we were going to leave adn eventually be together after a period of time on our own. Then it stopped without warning, i later found out they had someone else, they left there existing partner for this new one, only trouble is i have to work with them both. now I find out I'm also left with a perminant reminder for life If you know what I mean. How can you be so in love, soulmates one minute and not the next, but so in love with a new one, just like that no warning? Why would someone do that?

[Le Chat]

Ask Mel B! One minute Eddie Murphy and her were 'loved up and having a baby' ...about an hour later, he said it was all over and the baby wasn't his!
Seriously though, you need to mend or end your relationship with your proper partner. Affairs don't 'just happen' ..you make a choice whether to have one or not. Examine your reasons and do something pro active!
Horrible situation at work . I suggest either to just keep focused on your job, until time heals your heart, or change jobs if it is too emotionally painful for you.
In future, if you have problems within a relationship, work them out without turning to someone outside of the relationship. The emotional rollercoaster is too great.
Impossible relationships!!

[dimwithwit]

What a horrible situation! I would say your better off without him. not a nice person. It will take you time to heel, but you will. had you no idea that he was going to end it?
I don't know why anyone would do that. Had you been seeing him long? i feel for you, but i agree with Le Chat they talked alot of sense.

[sosad]

I had no idea he was seeing someone else, he went a bit funny for the last three weeks but he'd been seeing her for 3 months. His wife still doesn't know he's seeing anyone, he's left now. I just can't understand how you get from saying best friend, soulmate and lover discussing children and where to live to it's over. I just can't get my head round it. Thank you to both of you for replying, the sensible side of me knows u r right, I just can't get to grips with it.

[mycats]

"How can you be so in love, soulmates one minute and not the next"
well you dont. He clearly didnt love you, or his wife and probably not this new woman.
You were lucky to find out before you were living with or something.
Thing is, have you left your partner?? if not you should because you are using them.

[sosad]

Do you think he never did????? or right, perhaps your right, perhaps he didn't ... I'm a bit shocked, but that would answer why he could do what he did. But why say all those things to me then?

I think your right about my current partner, we have been having talks, not quiet there yet, but I think your right, I need to be a little stronger though to hold everything together.

I just feel such a gullable fool. Thank you for taking the time to help me though.

[mycats]

sosad its not your fault, you were taken in by a creep. He obviously has no guilt about cheating on his wife and lying to you and this girl he is with now.

If you were happy with your relationship though this wouldnt have happened. Good luck x

[sosad]

Thank you for your help, you are right about him i feel, he had us both in the same office telling both of us that he loved us. for three months before i found out. i've not told her, i didn't want to hurt her. but now i think I might have been even more of a fool. and the fact that he did it with both of us... well... anyway he told me she was better on top and gave better oral.... if you know what i mean.