gutted

[stokemaveric]

as im posting this im gutted 1 of my best friends ever died today ok he was 70 but he was 1 of the best blokes i have had the privelage to know he watched me grow up,saw my sons mature from boys to men and now hes gone...is it true only the best go first?..........im devastated

[pixiepie]

my deepest sympathy stokemaveric. Its so hard when someone close to you dies. Just try to remember the good times and why you were friends. Big kisses xxx

[bigmamma]

It is sad when someone close to you passes away , no matter what age . I am sure you will miss him terribly love.
Hug , take care :-) x

[stokemaveric]

thanx pixie he has just left such a big hole in mine and my sons lifes your kind words are much appreicated.he was diagnosed with stomach cancer 3 weeks ago at least hes not suffering i guess x

[stokemaveric]

thanx bigmamma its tough right now i know i shouldnt really be on hewre now but i know i wont be able to go to sleep mrs stoke is a rock...............as ever thanx again bigmamme xx

[hau kola]

Stokeace,please accept my sincere condolences,i really really do know what youre going through.Ive been through this 7 times now,losing people close to me.

[stokemaveric]

i know hau kola its hit the family real hard especially my 2 sons but as ive said to them its better to have had him in our lives and to feel like this now than not to have ever known him and have him in our lives at all.thanks for all your kind words.

[Mammar]

Stokeace - you've got it all worked out right.
Particularly liked your last remarks.
All it takes now is patience to let the pain of loss fade in its own time.
So pleased you knew this special man. Can only hope that people will feel like that about me when it's my turn to go!
All the best x x

[raysparx1]

Hi stoke, sorry to hear about your friend, just shows you how fragile we are, puts things in perspective, you were lucky though to have known somebody that had such an impact on your life, so carry on smiling and remember all the laughs you had together, he will always be a part of your life, and as you rightly say he is not suffering, take care stokey, Ray

[stokemaveric]

mammar and ray thanx for your kind words i have shown my sons all the replies on here and they also say thanks to all of you who have replied he sure was a great bloke.within my role in the armed forces as you can imagine i was away from home a hell of a lot and he and his wife always looked after my wife and kids he will be sorely missed by us and a lot of other people.thanks again all of you.xx

[ruby27]

stokeace. My condolences. In terms of bereavment what has helped me is to think that the pain and loss is in direct proportion to the value I had for them and the pleasure they gave me. The more is hurts equals the more they enriched my life and I am so grateful for being lucky enough to have loved them.

[johnlambert]

Hey stoke, sorry I didnt reply sooner mucker. First of all, my sincere condolences, diagnosed 3 weeks ago and gone now? mercifully quick matey, trust me.
I know how you feel stoke pal, the bravest man I ever had the pleasure to know was a Capt in the RAMC who died from cancer of the liver, I served with him when I re-enlisted after GW1, it was he who suggested I apply for a commission, he acted as my mentor and taught me so much, we were together in Bosnia + Kosovo, he passed away when I was in Afghanistan, like you I was gutted, however the Army got me home for his funeral. I still miss him to this day, he passed away in 2002, and I still drink a glass of Port in memory of him each night

[cruella]

Hi stokeace
The kind words on here is indeed a tribute to your friend. Not many people are so honoured in their lifetime to have a friend like him, and also the fact that you and your family must have also been good friends to him also.
You and your family must have many memories to treasure. Ones that you will never forget.
Remember, friendship works two ways.
Think he may be up there smiling down on you just now.

[stokemaveric]

ruby,john and cruella your words mean so much to me and my family you are all right in what you say,john im sorry about your captain i guess my mate ron deserves a glass or 3 [lol] in his memory.thank you most sincerely for all your kind words of comfort..

[Pippa68]

Bless your heart, Stokey...big hugs to you & yours.

Time is a healer, but you will always have fond memories of your friend and although tinged with a little sadness, you know he no longer suffers.

Take care xx

[stokemaveric]

thank you pippa xx all your kind words are a great comfort