Overweight wife

[dangel]

My wife was thin when we married but gas gained 25 kilos in the 5 years since. I don't understand how there can be such a dramatic change. She's South American -can it be cultural?

[zgma]

Hi Dangel, didn't you post this recently? I seem to remember thinking I was going to answer, but other people said what I would have said... which is that it's normal for women to gain weight in their mid-twenties (I gained about 40 pounds then, have lost some since but not all of it), and that it's just a metabolism thing that happens. I doubt there's much cultural significance.

[RevShirls]

Here are the responses when you asked the question in Body and Soul category earlier: http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Search/Question60716-3.asp?Pa ge=1&SearchText=overweight I've read your last comment there. If your wife is eating lots of cakes and sweets, then that seems to be the cause of her weight gain - not her cultural background. From what you say, she seems to be happy with her weight. She will only lose weight if she feels that she wants to.

[Doolallygirl]

Women only put weight on after they are married to spite their husbands! It's a joke!

[FTVS]

She's probabaly happy and content - heaven forbid!

[dangel]

Yes. She certainly is happy and almost always in a good mood. I guess I should be thankful she is fat and jolly rather than thin and cranky. Slim and happy wouldn't be bad though.

[maddog 1]

dangel are u getting put of by her weight knowing what she looked like before because a lot of wimen put on weight due to lack of love so your wife is comfort eating . what i am trying to say is the more she feels she is doing wrong the more she will eat give her a bit of t.l.c

[dangel]

I guess I am put off because of the sexy appearnce she had before. She looked great in a bikini, with nice curves. Now those curves have been replaced with large rolls of fat. I still love her and we are happy but I can't help but compare to the way she looked just a few years ago.

[matpat29]

That's rough. When you fall for someone, the physical attraction is obviously a big part of it (more so with men? - I think so), so I think you're right to be concerned. She's basically not the person you lusted after when you met. I think a lot of men and women let themselves go when they're in a long term relationship as they subconsciously think that they don't have to attract the opposite sex anymore. It's a toughie - a gentle hint may be your best move.